Dating a Divorced Man

Being divorced is hard enough. I know that I would never put my ex ahead of a new woman. My kids will always be important, but I still can balance another woman in my life with them. I'd actually want that. I'd welcome her into my life with open arms.

I got burned pretty bad in my marriage. But I wouldn't want her to suffer for it. I do however need someone who actually cares enough about me, to help me through some of it, i.e. trusting again. I got played, cheated on you name it.

I know there has to be good women out there, since she was my first physically, I have distorted views of what women think about men sexually. I feel like they just want to use sex to get what they want, and that it doesn't mean anything to them emotionally. This can't be true, but it is my battle. I don't see how I can get this out of me without being shown the opposite. I have yet to find that, therefore I continue to struggle with these thoughts.
Everything else is just theoretical.

I know I'm a great man though, and if a lady would be willing to do a little work, I would make her very happy. Problem is today's women want Mr. perfect on a platter, nothing less. Sorry I can't help you there, ever. I'll never be perfect, but I could be perfect for you in your imperfectness. Humble yourselves, and you just might be surprised.

There is no way a young single kid fresh out of college could hold a candle to me when it comes to learning lessons in life. If you think that's where it's at then you’re asking for what you get. I am ten times the man I was 10 years ago. SOOOO much wiser. I know I am what a real woman would want. As a matter of fact, I am probably too much for most. I am a very deep thinker, and have learned a lot from being in the superficial world. I know what it means to be young and dumb, whereas these young dudes have no clue.
Oh well it's all good, and to God be the glory through it all. I am a better man for it in the end.

Now if you really want to know what I think.... ; )

@KidJhb That is terrible advice, saying that the current girlfriends come last. It defeats the purpose of the article to help empower the girlfriend. I think there is a constant struggle, but the divorced man has no loyalties to his ex wife. That's like saying a guy who didn't marry a woman has loyalties to an ex girlfriend.

Dating a divorced man with kids can be very tricky. More often than not he is not sure where his loyalties lie and is often torn between the kids, the ex and the current girlfriend. Being the current girlfriend you are almost always last in line when it comes to loyalties. Can you deal with that? Know that the kids come first, then the ex-wife - the kids' mother - and then finally you and your needs.