Women start to worry when the signs of age become apparent. A woman that just turned 40 may feel insecure because she is not as young as she once was. She may feel that she is no longer attractive to her husband. Perhaps, she has even noticed him looking at younger women. The aging process can contribute to a woman’s insecurity about her appearance and her relationship.

Just because you are getting older doesn’t mean that your husband will leave you for a younger woman, but it does happen sometimes. There are usually contributing factors when a man leaves his wife of many years for a younger woman. It is rarely about age only. After all, he is getting older too.

What makes men start looking at younger women?
Of course, younger women have a physical appeal that attracts men, but men are usually seeking attention. Men have a need for attention and like to be admired. The need for attention can be stronger as men become older. Women shower their husbands with attention, affection and admiration when the relationships are new. Couples fall into a comfort zone as they grow older together. Sometimes people become too comfortable with each other and take each other for granted.

Women may not shower their husbands with as much attention as they once did and men long for the days of affection and excitement. A man may look for attention elsewhere if his wife takes him for granted for too long. Younger women are often attracted to older men for stability and security. Older men are flattered by the attention lavished on them by younger women.

A marriage that’s fallen into a rut…
Men may also complain that after being married for so many years that their wives do not take care of themselves anymore. Women may stop fixing their hair or putting on makeup. A man may complain that his wife has put on weight and walks around in her bathrobe all day. He may say that she does not wear attractive or sexy clothes anymore. An older woman may have a decreased sex drive and her husband feels neglected by her lack of sexual desire. A man may think that his wife is no longer interested in him if she stops caring for her appearance and becomes distant.

There are several ways a man can nudge his wife into taking better care of her appearance. He can suggest that they go out on a date. She will then need to fix her hair, wear something nice and apply makeup. The husband can even take her shopping for a new outfit. The husband can suggest activities such as hiking, bicycling, swimming or nature walks to lose weight and become more physically fit. He could even suggest taking a class together such as dance, yoga or aerobics. The wife may be prompted to take more interest in her husband and herself if the husband puts forth extra effort. More romance and attention can also fuel the sexual flame.

Regaining his attention
A woman that notices her husband taking interest in a younger woman will need to put forth the effort to re-gain his attention. She can remind him how much she loves him. She can spend more time with him and encourage him to participate in activities that he enjoys. She should take care of her appearance and dress attractively so that her husband will take notice of her.

An overweight woman should embark on a healthy diet and exercise routine after consulting her physician. She should make her husband aware of the steps she is taking to lose weight and get him involved by asking him to participate. He can help coach her to reach her goals by providing her with positive reinforcement.

The wife can let her husband know how much she needs him and how helpful he has been. Helping each other can bring them closer together. They can have fun together and spark their relationship on all levels. The husband may then realize he doesn’t need a younger woman to make him feel admired and needed. He just needed his wife to step out of her comfort zone and love him like she once did.

Rejection Breaking Up, Divorce, Rejection

Everyone knows that girl. She somehow gets nonstop attention from countless male suitors, seemingly without any effort at all, and every girl hates her for it. Well, get ready to be hated and admired by all of your friends, because if you follow these three easy tips you’ll have every guy you meet wrapped around your little finger! When it comes to first dates, it’s all about how you come off to your new love interest.

Guys are interested in a girl who is fun, exciting, exotic, and most importantly, NOT CLINGY. This seems impossible at times—girls need a lot of attention!—but with these three tips, you are sure to have your cake and eat it too. You’ll come off as sexy and aloof, and he’ll be so intrigued that he’ll be calling and texting you nonstop for a second date!

The first tip is a golden rule that every girl should follow on a first date; try to keep from talking about your self too much! It’s a proven fact that humans love to talk about themselves, so try asking him some interesting questions about himself! If you ask questions that allow him not only to talk, but to brag a little about his strengths and talents, he’ll start to feel confident and masculine around you and have no idea why! When you do talk about yourself, try to keep the conversation fun.

Don’t talk about all the girls you hate and the ten reasons why you hate each one—or your best friend and all of her drama—guys aren’t interested, and drama scares them away! So keep it cool, ask him questions, and answer his with poise and a little sass!

The second tip is the easiest one to understand, but the hardest one to follow; after your first date goes well, ignore him! Okay, don’t ignore him per se, but do try to let him be the one to contact you first. Think about it; how do you feel when a guy doesn’t call you back right away? Even if the first date was awful, he suddenly starts to be all you can think about!

Well it’s time to turn the tables and make him crave that next text from you! If you two hit it off, keep in mind it’s important to take a few extra minutes to text or call back every once in a while. It’s amazing just how much of an effect this one simple trick can have on a guy. There’s a certain mystique about a girl who isn’t constantly fawning all over you!

The third tip is fun and sexy; try to add a little sex appeal to every interaction! Use these little tricks to keep him itching to see you again. On a first date, instead of wearing a skin-tight dress, or a super form-fitting blouse, wear an off-the-shoulder shirt that shows off your neckline, collar bones and a flirty peek of bra strap. Let it slip out every once in a while, and then fix it like you’re hoping he didn’t notice. Then, add a little eye contact after your wardrobe adjustment, and immediately look away and laugh when he catches your eye as though a little embarrassed.

This sequence of events is like a magic spell that works on every guy you’ll meet. It may seem silly and goofy, but if you really want him to see you as that sexy girl-next-door once-in-a-lifetime catch, try it out! Sporadic use of flirty eye contact is always a game-winning move, so don’t be shy!

When it comes to setting yourself apart from all of the other girls out there, these three tips can be your secret weapons to win over Prince Charming. Use these on your

Flirting Attraction, Flirting, Men

Every girl needs to have a few excuses ready to go in case she changes her mind about a date. Sure, you can just be a straight-shooter, but what if you don’t want to hurt his feelings? What do you do if you want to go out with him again, just not tonight? What if the real reason that you can’t go is too unbearable to leave your lips? A little white lie never hurt anyone, and a few of them can definitely help you cancel a date in only five minutes or less without ruining the future of your relationship potential.

1. Give no excuse. Just ask to reschedule nicely.
No guy likes to have an anticipated date canceled, especially not last minute. Sometimes, it is effective to remain mysterious and stingy on the details, leaving him curious about your reason for ditching him. Is there someone else? Did you change your mind about him? Do you have something more important that you’d rather be doing with your time?

2. Tell him you accidentally double-booked.
While men do not like women who play games, they are competitive by nature. If you tell him that you said yes to the date without checking your schedule, it will make you a hot commodity. Canceling your date will let him know that there is competition for your attention. It does not matter whether it is from a good friend or a love interest.

3. You don’t own a cell phone, your watch’s battery died, and you had no idea what time it was. Rain check!
Most people own cell phones, so when a woman claims to not have one, it will intrigue her prospective love interest and cause him to take a double take on the woman who he would like to date—in a good way. She will seem different, and he will start to wonder about her hobbies, likes and dislikes. For example, does she read hardcover books vs. kindle-formatted books? Also, how many women still wear watches?

4. One of your friends just went into labor!
There’s no way a guy can get mad about your friend going into labor. Babies trump dates. Just never tell him your friend’s name because he might bring it up later in conversation. For the best results, keep this excuse short and sweet. After all, you have a hospital to get to pronto!

5. Your grandma is sick, and you have to stay in with her for the night.
Blame it on your grandmother’s health. There’s not much he has say about your grandma without coming off as a total jerk. He can’t insist that you blow her off or try to bargain with you. Just make sure that your grandmother lives locally to cover all of your bases in the future.

6. You have a work deadline that you overlooked in your calendar, and it needs to get done as soon as possible!
Be the ambitious career woman who puts herself first before any man. This attitude may sound conceited and self-absorbed, but men really dig confident women who know what they want. This little setback will only make a man want you more.

7. You’re really sick and don’t look or feel your best for a date.
Avoid putting on your “work call-out” sick voice with the extra cough to seal the deal. A fake sick voice will only make the situation more dramatic than it needs to be. Keep your voice low and just tell him that you are feeling under the weather. Say that you were looking forward to getting to know him more, but hopefully you guys can still do that another night. If he asks you what is wrong, tell him that you have a touch of the flu and refrain from going into details.

Canceling a date can be tricky. There is no right way to cancel. The only guide that you have is your desired outcome. If you don’t care to speak to the person again, you obviously don’t have to pay too much attention to what you will say to him. If you would like reschedule the date, extra measures have to take place. Whatever you do, always say it with a smile. Put a smiley face via text messaging, and most men will be less reluctant to blow you off for the next woman.

Dating Essentials Excuses, First Dates