Everyone knows that girl. She somehow gets nonstop attention from countless male suitors, seemingly without any effort at all, and every girl hates her for it. Well, get ready to be hated and admired by all of your friends, because if you follow these three easy tips you’ll have every guy you meet wrapped around your little finger! When it comes to first dates, it’s all about how you come off to your new love interest.

Guys are interested in a girl who is fun, exciting, exotic, and most importantly, NOT CLINGY. This seems impossible at times—girls need a lot of attention!—but with these three tips, you are sure to have your cake and eat it too. You’ll come off as sexy and aloof, and he’ll be so intrigued that he’ll be calling and texting you nonstop for a second date!

The first tip is a golden rule that every girl should follow on a first date; try to keep from talking about your self too much! It’s a proven fact that humans love to talk about themselves, so try asking him some interesting questions about himself! If you ask questions that allow him not only to talk, but to brag a little about his strengths and talents, he’ll start to feel confident and masculine around you and have no idea why! When you do talk about yourself, try to keep the conversation fun.

Don’t talk about all the girls you hate and the ten reasons why you hate each one—or your best friend and all of her drama—guys aren’t interested, and drama scares them away! So keep it cool, ask him questions, and answer his with poise and a little sass!

The second tip is the easiest one to understand, but the hardest one to follow; after your first date goes well, ignore him! Okay, don’t ignore him per se, but do try to let him be the one to contact you first. Think about it; how do you feel when a guy doesn’t call you back right away? Even if the first date was awful, he suddenly starts to be all you can think about!

Well it’s time to turn the tables and make him crave that next text from you! If you two hit it off, keep in mind it’s important to take a few extra minutes to text or call back every once in a while. It’s amazing just how much of an effect this one simple trick can have on a guy. There’s a certain mystique about a girl who isn’t constantly fawning all over you!

The third tip is fun and sexy; try to add a little sex appeal to every interaction! Use these little tricks to keep him itching to see you again. On a first date, instead of wearing a skin-tight dress, or a super form-fitting blouse, wear an off-the-shoulder shirt that shows off your neckline, collar bones and a flirty peek of bra strap. Let it slip out every once in a while, and then fix it like you’re hoping he didn’t notice. Then, add a little eye contact after your wardrobe adjustment, and immediately look away and laugh when he catches your eye as though a little embarrassed.

This sequence of events is like a magic spell that works on every guy you’ll meet. It may seem silly and goofy, but if you really want him to see you as that sexy girl-next-door once-in-a-lifetime catch, try it out! Sporadic use of flirty eye contact is always a game-winning move, so don’t be shy!

When it comes to setting yourself apart from all of the other girls out there, these three tips can be your secret weapons to win over Prince Charming. Use these on your

Flirting Attraction, Flirting, Men

You don’t want to be the poor sucker who whines to his buds about all the time and money he wasted on whatshername (you know, that cutie who ran hot and cold until she finally burned him for good!) The truth is, you don’t want a woman who has to play hard to get – you want the one who is hard to get. (Well, not hard for you to get, but impossible for those other guys!) You’re looking for the one who offers what all men want – a vixen in the bedroom, and who is fun and worthwhile elsewhere. Pay attention to the differences between these critical signals when you’re getting to know the fortunate femme who caught your eye.

CATCHABLE: A woman who has her own interests is good.
SKIPPER: A woman who relies on you to make her feel good about herself.

When she says she can’t see you this weekend, but offers an alternative day, she’s showing you that she is interested in you. She’s also showing you that she can keep her word to people, even if that means keeping her promise to herself to get her homework done. A busy woman might be legitimately hard to get, but worth the extra effort.

On the other hand, a woman who declines your invitation and is unwilling to commit to an alternate plan is either not that interested or she’s playing mind games. Either way, you lose. Set your scope on someone who deserves your attention.

CATCHABLE: A woman who refuses to date you while working things out with him.
SKIPPER: A woman who agrees to date you while she’s still seeing another guy.

Any woman who keeps her eye out for the next best thing that comes along isn’t worth a second glance. Does this need any further explanation? Don’t fall for her sad story. Even though you dream of being the prince that saves her from that mean ol’ dragon, once she’s in your arms, you’ll become the next fire-breathing menace in her life. She’s not mature enough to handle relationships on her own, and that includes the one you get into with her.

If she lets you know she is interested but wants to take care of unfinished business with a soon-to-be ex, ask her how long it will require. If her answer is “I don’t know,” or she expects it to take more than two weeks, step aside and date women who are available to be with you, because this one’s not ready to give up her baggage. She needs to end that relationship and take time to heal from it before jumping into a new one. A sound rule of thumb is to wait until she’s been single a week for each month they were together. If she was with him more than two or three years, give it at least six months.

CATCHABLE: A woman who says she’s interested, and shows it.
SKIPPER: A woman who claims she’s interested, but doesn’t always act like it.

If she flirts with other guys when you’re not around (or even when you are) after you’ve let her know it bothers you, either she’s not that interested or you are too sensitive. If she’s into you, she’ll stop if she really has been crossing a line. If she claims you’re being too possessive, she might be right, but she’s not right for you. Set her free to find someone who gets turned on by such behavior and find someone who shows that she can appreciate your values.

Flirting isn’t the only way a woman can act disinterested. Some women are coached to believe that if they are unavailable to you, it will pique your interest. It’s true that too much togetherness can breed boredom, so don’t panic if your sweetheart decides to go out with other friends instead of seeing you this weekend. Conversely, if you discover that she’s unavailable too often, ignoring your calls and texts, spending time with an ex, or doing things that violate your principles, be open about your expectations. Recognize if her reaction is anything short of respectful disagreement. She doesn’t have to have your values, but she does have to care about them, doesn’t she?

If she is inconsiderate in any way, carefully consider her response. An interested woman will take your concerns seriously. A manipulative one will become defensive. If her response is to find something to blame you for, or to deny your perceptions, it’s a subtle indicator that she doesn’t see you as her equal. Instead, she thinks her own values and interests are more important than yours. It might not seem like a big deal right now, but after months or years of this attitude coming at you, it will blossom into a major power struggle over minor issues – one that is unlikely to ever get resolved.

A woman who is attracted and interested won’t give you mixed signals. If you’re confused by your current girlfriend’s behavior, these three principles will help you get things back on track or let you get off that train. You won’t be that sad sucker who elicits pity from his friends. Instead, you’ll have the confidence that comes with knowing that you won’t get taken for a ride.

By Kathy Batesel

Relationships Flirting, Hard to Get, Mind Games, Self Confidence, Women

With Internet dating becoming more popular, you need to pay particular attention to your dating profile to increase your chances of finding dates. As competition is fierce on most dating websites, a poor quality profile can significantly dent your success.

Your Username
Most people create an online username without paying too much attention to it, but it can have a big effect on how you come across to other members of the website. This is not that surprising when you consider that your username is often one of the first things that prospective dates will see when they encounter you. Choosing something original and quirky that reflects your personality can draw attention and spark interest.

Your Profile Photograph
If you do not include a photograph as part of your profile, it is likely that it will not receive too many views. Research has suggested that you are eight times more likely to be contacted by other members if you upload a good quality photograph. Most prospective dates will want to see what you look like before making contact with you. Make sure that the photograph is up-to-date. If you upload an older photograph to entice other members, you will not be able to maintain the pretence if one of your admirers wants to meet you.

Be Truthful
It is tempting to expand the truth or even lie to appear more interesting to prospective dates, but this is not the best idea. Lies and half truths are likely to catch up with you sooner or later. Even if this is not the case, being economical with the truth is not the ideal start for a new relationship.

Be Positive
Using active language can make you appear more confident and assertive to prospective dates. For example, you can encourage prospective dates to get in touch with you if they like your profile. It is often a good idea to include a list of qualities that you desire in a partner to discourage responses from members who would not be compatible with your requirements. At the same time, avoid listing the qualities that you do not want in a prospective partner as this can make you come across as too negative and choosy. Generally speaking, positivity will work wonders in terms of how you are perceived.

Your profile can make or break your online dating success, so it makes sense to spend time making it as good as you can. Most people will find that either their “about me” section or photos could be improved, but it is often hard to look at it objectively. If this is the case for you, ask a friend to look over what you’ve done and suggest areas that could be improved. A friend can often suggest or highlight positive aspects about your personality that you hadn’t thought of or weren’t even aware of yourself!

By Sally A

Personal Profiles Personality, Photos, Profile