There are a million clichés about stupid dating mistakes. But, you know how clichés come about, right? Because they happen so often. So, it’s a good idea every now and again to check yourself and make sure you’re not making any of these worst dating mistakes.

• Talking badly about your ex – No matter how bad he or she was, you have nothing to gain and a lot to lose by talking negatively about them. Actually, just don’t talk about them at all at first – good or bad. It just makes you look like you have a lot of baggage.
• Calling your new partner over and over again – Take it slow in the beginning – don’t overwhelm your new attraction with attention. You’re likely to look more like a stalker than a good match.
• Not calling your new partner if you said you would – If you don’t plan to call; don’t say you will. If you say you will call, do it – even if it’s to say that you’re not interested.
• Lying – Don’t lie about yourself. If the relationship continues, you’ll get caught. Then, you’re likely to have long term trust issues.
• Interrogation – Slow down already with the questions about how many kids he wants, ok? You can scare off a very nice potential partner by asking too many personal questions too fast.

Rejection Mistakes, Rejection, Self Confidence

When we meet someone we really like, the focus is often on getting a first date. Once you go on that date, the relationship either goes further or it usually ends pretty abruptly. So, how do you handle a first date in order to make it more likely you’ll get a second? Here are seven things you should do if you’re really interested in getting that second date.

• Plan something to do – A first date activity makes both of you feel comfortable and gives you an automatic topic of conversation. Skip the cocktails idea for something more engaging.
• Don’t expect too much – This date should be about getting to know each other and nothing more.
• Be yourself – Don’t try to impress your date. Just look for common ground and enjoy yourself.
• Keep it short – It’s much better to have a short first date that leaves both of you more interested, than to have such a long evening that you run out of things to say.
• If you’re interested, let them know – If you had a good time and would like to see them again, say so. Just don’t be a clingon.
• Nothing more than a kiss. No matter how much fun you both had, anything more physical than a kiss risks putting the other person off.
• Ask them out. Don’t assume that the other person will take the lead. If you want to go out again, and you’re pretty sure the other person had a good time, too, it’s ok to ask at the end of the date. Or, call in a day or two.

Getting a second date should only be your goal, of course, if you really see a connection that at least leads you to believe that you’d have fun again. But, if you see that connection; don’t hesitate.

Dating Essentials First Dates, Relationships, Self Confidence

After dating someone for a while, this is the question you start to ask yourself. The older we get, however, the more likely we are to question our “gut” about such things. If you’re starting to think your new love might be “the one” here are four questions to ask yourself to be sure.

• Are things completely natural between you? When you find the right person, there is no pretense; you’re no longer trying to impress them. You believe they love you for who you really are.
• Do you agree on the most basic values? For two people to have a long term commitment, they have the same basic values. In the long run, two people with very different ideas on honesty, family relationships and integrity will not last.
• Do you want the same things long term? Having similar long term goals is critical. Do you agree on whether or not to have children? Do you share religious beliefs, or have you come to an agreement about your differences in this area? If not, you can’t really be sure yet that this person is “the one”.
• Can you imagine life without them? Think about your life if the relationship ended. If you find that you can’t imagine how you could be happy without this person in your life, then he or she may be “the one”.

Diary Children, Compatibility, Marriage, Relationships