Are you a having hard time getting a guy to notice you? If so, you’re not alone. Most women are clueless when it comes to getting their dream guy’s attention. If you’ve ever spent an entire afternoon dreaming about how nice it would be if a certain someone would just make eye contact with you, or if you’ve ever wondered why the cute guy in your office never talks to you, there’s a good chance you’re not doing the right things to attract male attention. If you’re not doing the right thing to attract the attention of the opposite sex, you are seriously hurting your chances of ever finding Mr. Right.

Now, before you start panicking, I have some good news for you. Not only can you get men noticing you, you can actually take proactive steps to start turning heads every day. The best part is, you don’t even need to spend a penny to start doing it. With the right combination of eye contact, body language and touch, you can get under a guy’s skin so fast that he won’t know what hit him!

Eye Contact

Throughout the ages, the most lusted-after women have understood the importance of eye contact. Cleopatra, the Egyptian seducer of Mark Antony and Julius Caesar, was famed for the colorful makeup she used to highlight her eyes. This was not an accident: directing a man’s attention to your eyes is one of the most effective ways to get him to notice you. However, you cannot initiate the eye contact yourself, as that can come across as desperate or even manipulative. Instead, you have to get a guy to initiate eye contact with you. The best way to do this is to use eye makeup; like Cleopatra, use eye makeup (mascara, eye shadow) that brings out your eye color. For example, if you have blue eyes, use brown eye shadow, as it will bring out the blue eyes. Once you have caught a guy in your gaze, hold eye contact for a few seconds: this will show him your confidence, and arouse his curiosity.

Body Language

Once you have caught a man’s eye, you can hold his attention with your body language. The single most important thing to remember about body language is to always maintain good posture. Good posture means standing with your back straight and your shoulders held high. One technique that can help you develop good posture is to stand with your back against the wall so that your feet, butt, shoulders and head, are all touching the wall. Once you have lined your body up against the wall, try maintaining the exact same posture as you walk away from the wall. If you notice yourself starting to slouch, position yourself against the wall again, and start over. Once you are comfortable walking with your back straight, make a conscious effort to do it as much as possible out in public. If you do it correctly, men will take notice.

Touch

Of all the tactics you can use to get a man’s attention, none is riskier (or more rewarding) than using physical touch. Naturally, before you try this strategy, you need to know how to do it properly. The key to maintaining a man’s attention with touch is to be subtle, and to make sure he already has some interest before you make a move. Do not, under any circumstances, try touching a man you have not yet been speaking with; doing this enough is sure to earn you a reputation you do not want. Instead, when you have been talking to a man for a while, try touching him on the shoulder to emphasize a point. For example, if you and a guy are talking about musicians, and he mentions the name of a band that he likes, you can touch both of his shoulders emphatically as you mention that you like that band too. If done correctly, this will not only hold the man’s attention, but get him interested in you as well.

Of course, getting a guy to notice you is hardly an exact science. While the strategies mentioned above are great places to start, they are not the be all and end all of getting noticed. Naturally, your use of clothes, fragrances and makeup will play a role as well. However, if you want to go out tonight start turning heads as quickly as possible, you can’t go wrong with the potent combination of eyes, posture and touch.

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Have you ever encountered a situation where you spotted an attractive female but didn’t approach because you weren’t sure if she was into you? Thanks to the subconscious signals she sends out, it’s easy to tell what’s on her mind by studying her body language. Whether in a bar or at the office, use the female body language tips below to determine if a woman is interested in getting to know you better.

1. Her gaze is always on you

If she can’t seem to take her eyes off you, she probably finds you attractive. Observe her gaze. Do her eyes seem to linger when she looks at you? Does she position her body in such a way so that she can keep her eyes on you? As an experiment, try moving to a different area of the room and see if her eyes follow you. These are sure female body language indications that she is interested in you and that you should introduce yourself. Also, pay attention to whether or not she holds eye contact with you during conversation instead of looking around the room or at her friends.

2. She points her feet in your direction

Whether she’s sitting or standing, take a look at the direction of her feet. A woman who is attracted to you will point her lower body in your direction. It is effectively a signal that says ‘I would like to go in this direction’.

3. She does things to get you to notice her

If she takes an unnecessarily long route to get somewhere and happens to pass by you, this indicates that she wants you to notice her. For example, she might deliberately pass by you on the way to the restroom even though the restroom is nowhere near you. This is a very clear invite and signals that she wants your attention.

4. She preens herself

When a woman knows you’ve observed her she’ll make a quick effort to look her best for you. She may do this by straightening her skirt of smoothing her hair. These female body language actions are often subconscious, though, so she may not even realize that she’s doing it.

5. She touches her hair

Most women are very particular about their hairstyle because it is one important way women show off their beauty. The way a woman touches or flicks her hair can be a sign that she is interested. If you see her tossing her hair back seductively or twirling and fondling her hair while looking in your direction, she is flirting with you for sure.

6. She laughs at your jokes

Once you approach her, tell her a funny story and pay attention to her reaction. If she openly laughs then she is probably into you. If she is interested in you, she will also listen intently as you speak and it will be apparent through her body language (head tilted, eyes focused, etc.).

7. She strokes herself or an object

Signs of interest or attraction also include enactment of sexually stimulating activities. For example, a woman might caress her arms, leg or face if she feels an attraction for you. This can mean ‘I would like to stroke you like this’ or ‘I would like you to stroke me like this’. Objects held may be also used in enactment displays which include stroking a wine glass, cigarette or any other object in close proximity.

8. She mirrors you

When a woman finds you attractive, you may be able to detect signs of mirroring which involves her mimicking your body language. This is an unconscious body language behavior and a definite indication that she is interested. Some examples of mirroring are taking a drink together or leaning back against the chair at the same time. She may also rest an elbow on the table at the same time as you or try to match the speed and tone of your voice. Pay close attention to see if she mimics your behavior in any way for signs of sexual attraction.

9. She moves in closer

If she feels attracted to you, she’ll sit or stand closer to you. Another great sign that a woman is flirting with you is that she moves in closer and closer and you continue to converse with her. She does this to show a desire to create more intimacy while between the two of you. Another trick she might use is to lower her voice so that you have to move in closer to her to hear what she’s saying. When you see her doing this, you’re receiving a definite sign of attraction and interest.

10. She touches you often

If a woman touches you during conversation it is another indication of her interest in you. This can be a simple touch on the hand or knee. Generally, the more intimate the touch and the longer it lasts the more she is interested.

Most body language experts like to apply the “Rule of Four” when determining if a woman is signaling attraction, so be alert for at least four of the above such indications. If she displays five or more signs of interest, you have definitely captured her attention and can be confident that she finds you attractive. Keep in mind, however, that even if some of the above body language signals are present, she could just be interested in keeping you as a friend so always be polite and respect her space.

Remember these 10 signs that she is attracted to you the next time you encounter a woman you find attractive, and you‘ll become an expert at decoding female body language in no time!

By Salena Quinn

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If you are like everyone else, you know that breakups are hard, especially if you did not want the breakup to happen. Unfortunately, things can stand in the way of a relationship, such as pride, jealousy, misunderstanding, selfishness and egos. Knowing what ended your relationship is important if you want to get your ex back.

Put away your pride.

If you can not admit you were wrong, even if you weren’t, then you will have little chance at getting your ex back. Both men and women need to know this because women are guilty of pride as well.

Sometimes, a simple “sorry” is all you need to say. Other times, you may have to do more. Either way, many people will take their ex back if they will admit they were wrong or agree to change. Therefore, it is important that you mean everything you say when trying to reconcile a relationship.

Stop being jealous

Women are notorious for being jealous, but many men struggle with jealousy as well. It is ok to be jealous if you have a good reason; for example, if your partner cheated on you or someone else in the past. Jealousy can cause either party to initiate the breakup.

Infidelity is not the only cause for jealousy. Many people get jealous of anything that takes their partner’s time away from them. This can include video games, computers, hobbies, and work.

If you want to get your ex back, but there are things in your life that make your ex jealous, you need to cut ties with anyone or anything that causes that jealousy. Additionally, if you are jealous for unnecessary reasons, stop being jealous.

Be more understanding

Misunderstandings cause many breakups. There are usually two reasons why misunderstandings occur. First, they may occur because one person is not willing to completely listen to everything that the other person says. Second, they may occur because one person has a hard time explaining how they feel. If your partner has a hard time explaining how he or she feels, you will have a hard time understanding exactly how they feel and what they mean.

If you want to get your ex back, you need to both listen to what he or she says and try to interpret the rest, as well as communicate how you feel.

Stop being selfish

Guys are notorious for being selfish, but women can often be just as guilty. Though selfishness shows in many ways, women have a hard time tolerating any single act of selfishness. If you are guilty of being selfish, then you need to make a conscious decision to change.

If you were selfish in the past, you may have a hard time getting your ex back. Your ex knows what kind of behavior you are capable of, thus he or she may have a hard time trusting what you say.

Hide your ego

Egos are not necessarily bad things; however, large egos are bad. Confidence stems from your ego, but arrogance and cockiness are typically the result of an inflated ego.

It is ok to have a sense of accomplishment, pride and joy, but be careful of how you present yourself to other people. If you act like no one else can meet your standards or no one is as great as you, chances are you won’t get your ex back.

If you want to get your ex back, you need to take all of these tips into consideration because you may be guilty of more than just one. However, since everyone is different, you may need to do other things before you can rekindle your relationship. Patience, determination, sincerity, and change are the keys to reconciling a broken relationship.

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