Why didn’t he/she call? You seemed to really hit it off, there was playful banter, even some touching and canoodling. So, why didn’t you get that call for a second date?

First of all, it’s probably not your fault. You just didn’t know the ‘rules.’ (No, not those other rules.)

Rule #1 – Don’t get too personal

While you might want to profess your entire life story to this new person, it’s not generally the best idea. So, leave the stories about your exes at home and try to talk about them instead.

Rule #2 – Don’t be rude

Always bring enough money to pay, cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, don’t talk with your mouth open, etc. All of those manners that your mother tried to teach you? Use them. And don’t even think about arguing that ‘Well, this is just the way I am.’ It’s still rude and it’s certainly not going to win you any points.

Rule #3 – Don’t try to be crazy

Somewhere along the line, the idea that quirky = good got passed along to singles around the world. So, people began to try to be overly funny or weird as they thought it might appeal to a prospective partner.

Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.

Being odd, if that’s a part of your personality, is fine, but being weird for the sake of being weird – not so great. Leave your singing of the names on the menu and rhyming everything that you say at home, locked far away from sunlight.

Be yourself!

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In this world of divorces and various dating and life circumstances, there may come a point when you are going to have children and be dating. Contrary to what you may have heard, the two can mix.

What you need to realize with your children is that there are two rules to always abide by:

1. Always be honest.

2. Only tell them what they need to know.

Yes, when you’re starting to date again after divorcing their other parent, you want to make sure they know that while you’re seeing other people, this doesn’t diminish the role of their ‘actual’ parent.

Let them know that you want to enjoy spending time with another person. It’s not that you don’t love their other parent, but that you want to see others.

From there, going into detail about why you aren’t with the other parent is unnecessary. If the child asks, diplomacy is going to be the best advice, especially when your child is young. What you can also do is let your actions speak louder than words.

Be nice to their other parent no matter what.

Be nice to the new dates you have, and introduce them to your children.

Listen to your child’s opinion of your dates.

This doesn’t have to be a sticky situation. What you need to do is to not make a big deal out of this dating situation and simply show your children how happy you are because of getting out of the house.

And how happy you are with them as a result. Smooth sailing.

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Whether it’s the winter or the upcoming reminder of your single-ness (otherwise known as Valentine’s Day), you might find yourself thinking of your ex more when they’re not around. And though you had a good list of reasons for breaking up with them, you can’t help but wonder:

What if we tried again? Could it work this time?

You start to remember all of the good times, and despite any dating advice to the contrary, you begin to plan out a way to ‘accidentally’ bump into your ex and try to start up a new conversation.

Does this ever really work? It might. Here are some tips to improve your chances.

Ask your friends first whether it’s a good idea – When you’re the only one with the good memories, you might have a biased view of the situation. Ask a trusted friend to tell you the truth about what your ex is really like.

Check to make sure they’re available – There’s no sense in going after someone who is married or dating someone else.

Don’t have any expectations – Though your relationship used to be one way, chances are good that it will be different this time, so if you’re looking for that old relationship, you might be disappointed.

Dating an ex might be a way to finally get some closure on a relationship that didn’t quite make it, or it might be a fresh start to love. Either way, you’re not the only one who’s considered it. But you might be one the few that succeeds.

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