While we can sit back and point out all of the flaws in our dating life, maybe it’s time to start pointing out what we’ve done right – for a change. So often, we sit and we wonder, “Why am I alone?” But while this question is not going to be quieted any time soon, the validity of asking it in the first place is questionable.

Here’s the thing – being single is not a disease or something that needs to be ‘fixed.’ In thinking that you have some sort of problem, you begin to create the feeling that YOU are the problem.

And as the saying goes, “It takes two to tango.”

Being in a relationship (or not) is rarely the fault of one person. Since you need to have two people come together who both enjoy each other’s company and who are actively ready to be in a relationship, it’s almost as though the stars do need to align in a very precise manner in order for love to blossom.

Instead of simply giving up and taking the blame, you need to get out and start living the life you do have. Sign up for classes, become a part of your neighborhood watch, etc. Do things that make you happy. After all, people want to date someone who’s vibrant and alive – not someone who’s mopey.

That part IS your fault. But fixing it is easy.

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Let’s be honest for a moment, you want more from your love life. We all do. Even if we’re in great relationships or we are satisfied with being single, we want MORE. And that’s one of the best reasons for online dating in the first place.

It gives you more – more than you can handle in most instances.

You get to meet more people than you might have on your own by sitting in one bar with your girl friends or guy friends and you don’t even have to buy a sip of alcohol or risk getting hit on by someone you don’t like. Online dating puts you in control and it puts you in the driver’s seat.

No more wasting time throwing out a line with bait and just hoping that you’ve picked the right spot. Everyone on the site, well, nearly everyone, wants to find someone to love, or maybe just like, for the night. This means that you’re more than likely to find exactly who you’re looking for.

Or at least have fun trying.

The fact is that if you aren’t dating online, you’re probably not dating much at all. You’re relying on your friends for blind dates and for their exes. And that’s just not a recipe for success. But you already knew that, didn’t you?

No one’s hanging out at bars anymore, at least, not to pick up a date. They’re going there with their dates – not a great way to find someone who’s single, is it?

You already know that online dating is the way to go, but this little reality check may just get you started.

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If you’re taking someone out on a date, you want to make the best impression you can, right? And while you’d like to think that your car isn’t going to be the thing that your date judges you on – think again.

The truth is that having a great car will certainly get you noticed but if you find that your date is actually judging you on your car….watch out.

That said, you don’t want to show up in a clunker either.

So, if you don’t have a Porsche (and how many of us actually do?), there are some ways to make sure that your date doesn’t recoil in horror when they see you pull up.

Get the car washed – Really, this takes only a few minutes of your time and it will certainly make it look like you care about your car and about how you look to your date.

Vacuum the inside out – With just a regular vacuum or one of the vacuums that they have at the local gas station, vacuum out the inside of the car. Take your time doing this and make sure that you’re removing all of the pet hair, dust, and dirt that might have built up.

Grab an air freshener – One of the little trees that you can hang in your car can help to make sure your car smells fresh – but don’t hang it from your rearview mirror. Put it in your car for the entire day before your date and remove it right before you leave for the date itself. That way, you’re not overpowering the car with ‘new car’ scent, but it still smells great.

While you’re saving up for a fancy car, you can make your car look as nice as possible. And hopefully your date will be focusing on you and not the price tag of their ride.

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