You’ve probably already found yourself in this situation at work: you’ve emailed your boss and you thought you were being silly, but they took it the wrong way. Yikes. And it then took you many hours to finally explain yourself, only to make you gun shy about saying anything witty in an email ever again.

So when it comes to online flirting, what can you do to ensure you’re not offending anyone, yet still being cool and seductive?

Make sure you’re rereading what you send to someone – Those notes that you send off spontaneously are the ones that will get you in the most trouble. Read and reread what you’re sending before you push that send button.

Even better, have someone else read it – If you have a friend that you trust, have them read the email as well. They’ll be able to tell you if you need to reword something or if you need to strike something completely out of the email itself.

Use email ’softeners’ – That’s right, you have full permission to use smiley faces and ‘ha ha’ to make sure anything that’s supposed to be funny comes across as funny. ‘Just kidding’ is another good way to make sure your intentions are clear.

Be overly flirtatious – You could also take the route of being overly flirtatious by using cheesy pick up lines and lovey dovey quotes. This way, the other person will laugh to themselves, knowing the meaning, but not really knowing if you mean it or if you don’t….mysterious person that you are.

Practice, practice, practice – Chances are good that even if you do follow this advice, you’re going to run into troubles and mess up from time to time. Instead of beating yourself up over flirting mistakes, learn from them.

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That said, there are some more simple ways to make yourself a seductive star – and they’re easy to start right now. You can even seduce your boss, if you like, into giving you a raise.

These tips are that good.

Realize They’re Just as Nervous – When you start to realize that the other person is just as nervous as you are, you will begin to relax. And that’s seductive in and of itself. Just by allowing yourself to be cool and collected, you will look like you have a secret that they want to uncover.

Pattern Yourself After the Other – This one is a bit trickier because you don’t want to come off as being overly annoying or OCD. What you want to do is to subtly mirror the other person’s movements and expressions. That is, if they lean to the left, you want to lean to the left. If they’re smiling, you should smile, etc. This helps make the other feel like they’re more comfortable and in the presence of someone similar to them, which puts them at ease.

Let It All Go – Yes, you might have just said something stupid, but you’re going to look less attractive if you continue to dwell on it or continuously bring up your faux pas. Instead, make sure to let small things go and move on. This shows your comfort level with the other person, plus it helps you stop sweating the small stuff!

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Want to turn your first date into the beginning of a relationship? No, it’s not a matter of looking hot, though that will help. What you need to do is to turn your partner on – and you can easily learn how to accomplish this goal.

Men and women take note, it’s not about the car you drive – it’s about the little things that set you apart from the rest.

Don’t be Available all the Time – While you want to make sure you’re saying yes to dates, you don’t want to tell them that you’re available for the next two weeks at anytime or any place. That just makes you look desperate. Instead, show them that there are certain times you are available, but other times you have a life. They don’t have to know that you and your cat have a standing cuddle date or that you want to watch Bruce Willis movies by yourself.

A Few Buttons Undone… – If you want to keep them guessing, it’s not about showing some skin, it’s about showing what might be underneath your clothing. Keep your outfit choices chose to your figure, and maybe unbutton one too many buttons. But then cover up the skin with something else, like a scarf or a jacket to keep your modesty. Don’t worry, their imagination will figure out what you’re not showing off.

Find a Titillating Topic of Conversation – Don’t be boring with small talk and chit chat. You want to talk about something that makes them remember you long after you’ve both gotten home. Pick a few questions that might start off an exciting conversation – and don’t get hell bent on them answering ‘right.’ This is supposed to be fun, after all. A game of ‘Would You Rather…’ is a great way to be irresistible. Here’s an example, “Would you rather be really tall or really short?” The answers you give then need to be supported by an explanation.

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