Does what you do with you body really say something about how you feel?

Dating coaches say yes.

The way you and your partner move reveals how you’re feeling about your relationship at a deeper level. See Reading Body Language in Depth, for some general ideas about the subject.

To test this out, I went to my local pub last night to do some people-watching.

The first couple I noticed was a man and a woman sitting at the bar. Seated side-by-side, they gave the impression of being quite into each other. They weren’t rigid, but openly turned face-to-face. Many of their gestures crossed into the ‘personal space’ of the other…getting close, but never quite touching. Maybe they were on a date! They smiled and laughed. And you could just tell they wanted to be close to one another.

Another couple, seated at a table next to me, also appeared to be very much in sync. They did some ‘mirroring’….(psychological theories suggest ‘mirroring’ another’s body language strengthens relations with them)….but it didn’t seem like something they did on purpose.

She would lean in…..then he would lean in.
She would put her arm back…..then he would put his arm back.
He would touch his hair…..then she would play with her hair.
And on, and on.

Though they weren’t sitting as close to each other as the people at the bar (these two were across from each other), they intently looked one another in the eyes while speaking. They smiled and laughed in a relaxed manner. And their ease with each other made it seem as if they had been together for a long time.

Outside a few people walked by. But the only couple I saw didn’t look too happy. A man with a frown was walking just ahead of his female companion, who hurried to keep up with him – her head to the ground! While they may or may not have been a romantic couple, their body language (i.e. head down & frown) indicated that they were not terribly close to one another (as friends or anything else for that matter!) at that particular moment.

Checking out body language is a fun experiment anyone can try.

Next time you go out, look around you. See what kind of signals people actually give off.

A lot can be learned just by looking…

And this can certainly help in your own relationship!

Do you want to know…

Are they mad, but just not telling you???

…rather than ask them, watch them!

You might be surprised at just what their body is telling you.

Wishing you luck in love…
Veronika Cardes

Flirting Body Language, Flirting, Partner, Sexy, Women

‘When you know how to flirt, you can pretty much get anything you want.’

That’s what my friend Chiara likes to say. Maybe there’s something to it since she’s one of the most successful flirts I know. And yes, she does get just about anything she wants. I suppose you probably know someone just like her.

So where does this talent for wooing others come from?

Chiara isn’t the most beautiful girl by ‘conventional’ standards, but she cultivates a certain amount of power through flirtation that gets everyone eating out of the palm of her hand.

How does she do it?

Well, first of all, she’s a bit of a tease with everyone and everything. Man, woman, whatever! Not only does she flirt with guys at work and in bars, but she also uses this subtle power to deal with waitresses in restaurants, female store clerks and even other women in her business dealings. When you think about it, flirtatious folk do more than just attract the opposite sex…they are people who know how to engage everyone they interact with. And they often are able to do it just by being slightly playful.

Ladies like Chiara are not the only ones doing this. Smooth operating male flirts employ similar tactics.

No need to worry if you aren’t too good at pulling this off yourself. There’s practically an entire science dedicated to flirtation as an art form. You can see ‘Flirting and Body Language‘ for some of the more specialized ways to improve your technique. And guys, if you’re confused about the signals you’re getting then “Top 10: Signs She’s Flirting With You” might come in handy.

While I recommend taking a look through these tips, REMEMBER…flirting is best when it’s playful, natural and fun! It’s more than just mastery of technical maneuvers. It’s also about how you feel and how you project that.

Feeling sexy, confident and genuinely having an interest in others will take you a long way!

So, make sure you actually feel sexy. Deck yourself out! You don’t have to go crazy everyday, but find a look that makes you feel powerful yet comfortable. One that’s easy to do daily.

Think back to days when you knew you looked great. After a fabulous new hairdo or while strutting around in some sleek new clothing. You likely behaved differently…more in control, confident and flaunting your new look. Others probably took notice too. Don’t forget that how you feel about yourself comes across to others. When you feel hot, then you ooze hot – and flirting comes quite naturally.

You don’t have to be obnoxiously overt and sexual at every single encounter with others. Rather, the best flirters are those who’ve learned to combine a sense of playfulness with confidence in their own sexuality.

Flirting should bring you closer to what you want. Not cause you more grief.
So make it fun!

Veronika Cardes

Flirting Flirting, Fun, People, Power, Sex, Sexy, Teasing, Wooing, Work

There’s a difference between attracting men and attracting the right kind of men. Even when you’re online, there are plenty of things that you can do to make sure that Mr. Right looks your way.

• Be yourself – There’s nothing more important than being yourself with a guy. When you start to act like someone else to impress a guy, you will attract guys that are attracted to your ‘fake’ self. But you can’t keep up the charade forever, and you’ll both realize that you really weren’t a good match in the first place.
• Be happy – There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who is smiling or who is optimistic. When you’re satisfied with your life and you’re having a good time, men can tell. They want to be a part of that good time too. There’s no need to be serious unless that’s the way that you are.
• Be friendly – While you might not want to attract a certain guy, there’s no reason to be mean with him. This is especially true when you’re in the bar scene. Do you really think that that next guy that you want to talk to is going to be interested in someone that just was rude to another man that she doesn’t even know? When in doubt, politeness wins.
• Play up your assets – No, not those. When you’re out on the dating scene, try to draw attention to the parts of yourself that you like. Like your neck? Try a scoop neck shirt and a nice necklace. Like your face? Try on some attractive makeup. When you draw attention to your strong features, you will attract a man to your confident nature.
• Leave something to the imagination – While you might want to dress provocatively, that isn’t always the best course of action. Most men actually enjoy a woman who doesn’t reveal all in the first few minutes of talking. Try wearing something that is flattering, but that doesn’t reveal too much flesh. There’s always another time to do that.

The best advice is to be confident that you are someone that is worth a second look – because you are!

Flirting Attraction, Bar, Body Language, Flirting, Friendly, Guys, Men, Positive