Want to turn your first date into the beginning of a relationship? No, it’s not a matter of looking hot, though that will help. What you need to do is to turn your partner on – and you can easily learn how to accomplish this goal.

Men and women take note, it’s not about the car you drive – it’s about the little things that set you apart from the rest.

Don’t be Available all the Time – While you want to make sure you’re saying yes to dates, you don’t want to tell them that you’re available for the next two weeks at anytime or any place. That just makes you look desperate. Instead, show them that there are certain times you are available, but other times you have a life. They don’t have to know that you and your cat have a standing cuddle date or that you want to watch Bruce Willis movies by yourself.

A Few Buttons Undone… – If you want to keep them guessing, it’s not about showing some skin, it’s about showing what might be underneath your clothing. Keep your outfit choices chose to your figure, and maybe unbutton one too many buttons. But then cover up the skin with something else, like a scarf or a jacket to keep your modesty. Don’t worry, their imagination will figure out what you’re not showing off.

Find a Titillating Topic of Conversation – Don’t be boring with small talk and chit chat. You want to talk about something that makes them remember you long after you’ve both gotten home. Pick a few questions that might start off an exciting conversation – and don’t get hell bent on them answering ‘right.’ This is supposed to be fun, after all. A game of ‘Would You Rather…’ is a great way to be irresistible. Here’s an example, “Would you rather be really tall or really short?” The answers you give then need to be supported by an explanation.

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While we can sit back and point out all of the flaws in our dating life, maybe it’s time to start pointing out what we’ve done right – for a change. So often, we sit and we wonder, “Why am I alone?” But while this question is not going to be quieted any time soon, the validity of asking it in the first place is questionable.

Here’s the thing – being single is not a disease or something that needs to be ‘fixed.’ In thinking that you have some sort of problem, you begin to create the feeling that YOU are the problem.

And as the saying goes, “It takes two to tango.”

Being in a relationship (or not) is rarely the fault of one person. Since you need to have two people come together who both enjoy each other’s company and who are actively ready to be in a relationship, it’s almost as though the stars do need to align in a very precise manner in order for love to blossom.

Instead of simply giving up and taking the blame, you need to get out and start living the life you do have. Sign up for classes, become a part of your neighborhood watch, etc. Do things that make you happy. After all, people want to date someone who’s vibrant and alive – not someone who’s mopey.

That part IS your fault. But fixing it is easy.

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Even though you might be single now, that doesn’t mean you have to be alone in your hunt for someone to date. The truth is that you need a sort of wingman (or wing-woman) to help you navigate the online dating scene, while you also need a dating buddy to commiserate with as you jump into the dating pool.

There are a few things you should look for in your dating buddy:

• Someone who is looking for love too
• Someone who has been successful on the site you’re using
• Someone who is positive
• Someone who will motivate you to take chances

You want someone to make sure you are buddy-ing up with someone who will push you to try things that you normally wouldn’t. That is, if you get rejected on the site by someone, your buddy is the one that tells you to try again anyway – not to give up.

You also want someone who is going to be completely honest with you when you need that dose of reality. If your profile needs work or you simply need to take more chances winking at people or emailing those that you like, your buddy should be telling you so.

Together, you just might find love and then you won’t need a dating buddy anymore – but you can then start being each other’s relationship buddy.

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