While it seems like there are new television shows every season that show neurotic singles looking for love, that’s fiction, right? In truth, maybe art is more like life than we think it is. Maybe we really are getting a bit over obsessed with dating, with meeting new people, and with finding that one perfect love. After all, if we’re so great and wonderful and perfect for dating (as so many experts tell us), why haven’t we found someone yet?

Neurotic seems to be an understatement sometimes.

But does that mean that we need to talk to a therapist about our dating woes? Maybe, but maybe not.

Going to a therapist can be a great way to begin to learn how to build your confidence in all areas of your life – even outside of dating. This person can talk you through past dates to figure out what you could have done differently in order to make things go better the next time around.

On the other hand, experience can also be a good teacher. The more you head out onto dates, the more you will learn about dating – that is, what to do and what to avoid at all costs.

Here are some signs that you might need professional guidance in your dating troubles:

• You haven’t had a good date. In years.
• All of your relationships end in the other person breaking up with you.
• Your friends have tried to point out things you could do differently.
• You don’t feel confident about your ability to ask someone out.
• You get so nervous that you have troubles being yourself on a date.

Dating is hard, but therapy can be harder. Actually with this in mind, maybe dating isn’t so difficult after all – at least you don’t have to pay someone to tell you how to do it. Of course, it may be the way to finally win the dating game.

And that’s a good investment.

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As the weather begins to change from the warmth of summer to the cool of fall, many of us are heading indoors…to date online. There’s nothing like finding someone else to help make these cooler days more enjoyable. But when you’re stuck for first date ideas, you might just find yourself sitting at home all bundled up – by yourself.

To help prevent this, you need original first date ideas that will really impress this new date.

Local Football Games – If you’re both into sports, you might want to head to a local football game to share your love of the game, while also getting outside in the crisp fall air. It’s a light date that doesn’t cost a lot of money and gives you something to talk about.

A Walk in the Foliage – Since the leaves are changing anyway, why not turn them into a date too? Talking someone to the park is a great way to size each other up and to find out more about their interests.

Corn Mazes are Everywhere – Many cities also have annual corn mazes available that can make for a fun first date. You can go on hay rides or simply try to navigate your way through the maze together.

The fall is a time for getting out and enjoying a few cups of hot cider along the way – not for sitting at home.

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When you’re getting ready to create an online dating profile, you need one important thing: a photograph of yourself. Whether you want to admit it or not, these are the things that drive you to certain profiles and that drive you away from others. If you want to stand out among the other singles on your preferred dating website, you need to make sure your profile picture does you justice.

Here are some tips you can use:

Take many pictures – Instead of just taking a few, take dozens of pictures of yourself. This will increase your chances of getting the best shot.

Have you friend take the pictures – While you might just want to take a few candid shots of yourself, sometimes that objective eye of a friend can take a more flattering shot.

Use natural lighting – Instead of taking your picture indoors, try to take it outside or at least by a window where the light is softer.

Wear a dark color, but not black – Try to choose a color that is striking, but not washed out so that you can show off your face in the picture.

Wear some makeup, but try not to overdo it – Women, while you might think that more is more, you can begin to look a little clown-like if you overdo it. This is where that friend will come in handy with their honest opinion.

Smile – If you smile in your profile, it’s like smiling at everyone that’s looking at your picture. Now that’s a good first impression.

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