In recent years, we’ve seen some dating gurus come and go. You know the ones I mean; they offer their advice on how to attract the opposite sex via an e-book that you can purchase off the internet. But, do singles really need to pay for dating advice? And, are these people really “experts”?

I suppose the answer to this, like so many other things, is yes and no. There are a few people who may need tips on meeting other people and on what to expect from the club scene. Those who are extremely shy may benefit from some confidence building tips and from some “opening lines” that can help them get a conversation going.

The downside to these kinds of programs, in addition to their cost, however, is that using their techniques may make you come across as a “player”. If your goal is to be a player, that’s fine. However, if your goal is to meet your soul mate, these techniques may actually hinder you.

What most of us are looking for is a person with whom we can really have a connection. It’s only possible to truly connect with someone when you’re being yourself.

So, skip the pricey dating gurus and focus on letting people get to know the real you. If you want to spend some money, spend it on joining an activity club for singles or on an online dating site. There’s plenty of free dating advice on the internet in blogs just like this one that can help you overcome shyness and be more prepared to meet new people.

Dating Essentials Advice, Attraction, Self Confidence

Being single has become a bit more popular these days. The proof is in the single celebrities and more people deciding that they just want to date instead of trying to mate. So perhaps you’re just better off being yourself and never falling in love.

Love is a pain, after all, right?

Here are some tips to make sure you’re not going to fall in love anytime soon:

• Don’t try to meet anyone – If you can’t meet the love of your life, you’ll never fall in love, after all. Makes sense, right?
• Don’t give any of your dates a second chance – If they screw up right once, they’re out of your life.
• Don’t listen to advice from your friends – Even though they might be completely honest, they’re not going to help you find someone new anyway.
• Don’t keep parts of your life secret – If you’re out on a date, air out all of your dirty laundry – and your deep dark secrets.
• Don’t listen to a word they say – Since they’re not going to be a partner for you, why bother listening to what they say?

Choosing to stay single is empowering and something you can start right now. Just follow this advice and you will certainly not get asked on a date again. Whew.

Rejection Advice, Avoid, Celebrities, Love, Single

Many websites are written for and by men offer dating advice that you can use in the online dating arena. But with all of sites that are available, wouldn’t it be easier if you had a ‘cheat sheet’ of the dating advice that really matters in the online dating playing field? Here are the things you need to know before you head to your computer.

• Honesty works – While you don’t want to remind your potential dates that you haven’t been on a date in ten years, there’s nothing wrong with being honest about the important things. If you’re not interested, tell the person. You want to start off any potential relationship on the right foot. Make sure to be honest about what you look like, what you like to do, and other details. If you get caught in a lie, it can look worse than the truth.
• Remember that there are plenty of dates out there – When you start accepting dates because you’re afraid that no one else will talk to you, you’re going to start accepting dates with people that just aren’t right for you and may even be dangerous. Remember that there are always more dates available – and that you’re worth the time of looking for the right one.
• Avoid sex talk for a while – Unless you’re going to a site that’s explicitly just for sexual hook ups, you want to avoid any sexual talk until you get to know the other person a little bit better. You don’t want to look like the only thing you’re interested in is sex.
• Avoid sending carbon-copy e-mails to lots and lots of women. Although dating can turn out to be a game of lotto for men, remember that nobody is flattered by a scripted, impersonal letter. Make your letters personal – you’ve much more chance of being noticed that way.

New to online dating? Read more in Online Dating for Beginners.

Tips and Ideas Advice, Beginners, Men, Rejection, Sex, Talk