Every so often I hear a single person say, “There just aren’t any single guys/girls out there”. In fact, I can even remember saying it myself about 42,000 times when I was single.

It is true that as you get older, the population of single people may diminish. And, by older, I just mean older than the largest age group of singles who are looking for love, which are people in their early twenties.

But, one of the biggest reasons people don’t find love is that they don’t make time for it. You see, as we mature, we make a life for ourselves, which is good. It’s not a good idea to put off doing the things you want to do because you’re waiting for the right mate to come along. However, when we make too good a life for ourselves we may be reducing our chances of finding that mate.

If your life is filled to the brim with work, friends and family, you may be preventing yourself from finding a mate. If you can’t find time to search, how will you make time for the right person when he or she comes along?

We have to strike a balance between having a fulfilled life as a single person and devoting time to finding a mate. The right guy or gal is not going to knock on your front door tonight (or any other night) while you’re watching television. Once you’ve exhausted the obvious avenues for meeting singles, like work, friends of friends and social clubs, it can be very tempting to say that there’s just no one out there.

Remember, however, that you’re out there. So, certainly there are others like you. It just might be a little harder now to find them.

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None of us wants to seem like we’re paranoid in our relationships. That’s a good thing. But, it is important to read signs when they’re glaring in front of you. There are some pretty definite signs that a person you’ve been dating is losing interest. If you’re seeing any of these four signs, there could be trouble on the horizon.

1. Your partner is always busy. When weekend trips with ” the boys” or “girls nights out” become too frequent, it could be a sign that your partner isn’t interested in being with you. We all need a little “friend time”, even when we’re in a relationship, but if your partner suddenly has no time to spend with you, but lots for everyone else; that’s a problem.

2. You’re not having sex. Assuming, of course, that you were having sex before; not having sex now is a clue that something is amiss.

3. Your partner picks fights. Has your partner become super picky about everything you do or is he or she knowingly doing things to set you off? Maybe he or she is trying to pick a fight that could turn into a breakup fight.

4. They never call. While it is perfectly normal for those “20 times a day” calls to reduce over a period of time, it’s also normal for couples to check in with each other. If your partner never checks in and never seems to have time to talk when you check in; there’s a reason.

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Finding time has become somewhat of a talent in these hectic times. Though we want to have fulfilling relationships and make the most of our social lives, the truth is that there are other things that get in the way: our children, our work, and just life itself. But when you’re looking for that special someone, you need to start also looking for time to spend with them.

There are a number of ways to create time in your day, but one of the easiest ways to get out and date is to set up a time each week where you go out – no matter if it’s by yourself or with someone. It could be a weeknight, a weekend night or the middle of the afternoon. Take this time for yourself and guard it as sacred. That means that no social events, no work obligations, and no childcare will be taken care of during this time – emergencies are another matter. You will just take care of yourself during this time and start putting your needs first for a change.

Once you start taking this time for yourself, you’ll realize that you might want to spend it with someone – and now you have a time that you can tell them that you’re available!

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