Whether it’s the winter or the upcoming reminder of your single-ness (otherwise known as Valentine’s Day), you might find yourself thinking of your ex more when they’re not around. And though you had a good list of reasons for breaking up with them, you can’t help but wonder:

What if we tried again? Could it work this time?

You start to remember all of the good times, and despite any dating advice to the contrary, you begin to plan out a way to ‘accidentally’ bump into your ex and try to start up a new conversation.

Does this ever really work? It might. Here are some tips to improve your chances.

Ask your friends first whether it’s a good idea – When you’re the only one with the good memories, you might have a biased view of the situation. Ask a trusted friend to tell you the truth about what your ex is really like.

Check to make sure they’re available – There’s no sense in going after someone who is married or dating someone else.

Don’t have any expectations – Though your relationship used to be one way, chances are good that it will be different this time, so if you’re looking for that old relationship, you might be disappointed.

Dating an ex might be a way to finally get some closure on a relationship that didn’t quite make it, or it might be a fresh start to love. Either way, you’re not the only one who’s considered it. But you might be one the few that succeeds.

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In this festive time of year, it’s only natural to want to find someone to share it with. And if you’ve been single for a while, you might be anxious to finally find ‘the one’ that you will fall in love with.

But is it that easy?

When you are dating, you need to recognize that finding someone and falling in love with someone are not necessarily one and the same. While you might want to be with someone and do all of the right things to attract them, this does not guarantee that you will find the right person.

You need to begin to ask yourself if you are ready to dating at all. This question becomes all the more important when you haven’t dated in a while or when you’ve had a particularly bad breakup recently. If either of these are the case, you need to begin by working on yourself and your issues before you can let someone else in.

This means taking a few moments to consider your role in the demise of your previous relationship. What could you have done better or differently? In addition, you need to look at your exes to see what they have in common and what you want in a new partner that is the same or that is different.

You also need to realize that falling in love might be an instant thing, but a relationship is not. In order to make a real relationship work, you need to spend time nurturing it with communication and with a concentrated focus.

Not everyone is ready for love, but that doesn’t mean they will never be. It just might take a little longer.

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Admit it. You have a MySpace page because you’re hoping against all hope that your old flame is going to try to find you. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. This unconventional way to find the love of your life isn’t something new, but it is the modern day equivalent of stalking someone without leaving your home. Instead of following them from work to home and then calling them only to hang up, you can follow around your old flames with online dating sites.

And what’s even funnier about it is that these sites aren’t actually set up to be dating sites, as such. But they’re working out what way.

But does it work? Sometimes, it certainly does. If you’re single, why not try to message your old flame to see what he or she is up to? It can’t hurt and if they never respond, that’s no loss to you. But if they do respond, you might be able to restart an old conversation.

Chances are high that one of you is going to be in a relationship, making something new a bit tricky or even impossible, so you need to be ready for these situations as well. But when you’re both single, online dating through networking sites like MySpace, Facebook, and others is a good way to find out just who else might be looking for you too.

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