Everyone knows that girl. She somehow gets nonstop attention from countless male suitors, seemingly without any effort at all, and every girl hates her for it. Well, get ready to be hated and admired by all of your friends, because if you follow these three easy tips you’ll have every guy you meet wrapped around your little finger! When it comes to first dates, it’s all about how you come off to your new love interest.

Guys are interested in a girl who is fun, exciting, exotic, and most importantly, NOT CLINGY. This seems impossible at times—girls need a lot of attention!—but with these three tips, you are sure to have your cake and eat it too. You’ll come off as sexy and aloof, and he’ll be so intrigued that he’ll be calling and texting you nonstop for a second date!

The first tip is a golden rule that every girl should follow on a first date; try to keep from talking about your self too much! It’s a proven fact that humans love to talk about themselves, so try asking him some interesting questions about himself! If you ask questions that allow him not only to talk, but to brag a little about his strengths and talents, he’ll start to feel confident and masculine around you and have no idea why! When you do talk about yourself, try to keep the conversation fun.

Don’t talk about all the girls you hate and the ten reasons why you hate each one—or your best friend and all of her drama—guys aren’t interested, and drama scares them away! So keep it cool, ask him questions, and answer his with poise and a little sass!

The second tip is the easiest one to understand, but the hardest one to follow; after your first date goes well, ignore him! Okay, don’t ignore him per se, but do try to let him be the one to contact you first. Think about it; how do you feel when a guy doesn’t call you back right away? Even if the first date was awful, he suddenly starts to be all you can think about!

Well it’s time to turn the tables and make him crave that next text from you! If you two hit it off, keep in mind it’s important to take a few extra minutes to text or call back every once in a while. It’s amazing just how much of an effect this one simple trick can have on a guy. There’s a certain mystique about a girl who isn’t constantly fawning all over you!

The third tip is fun and sexy; try to add a little sex appeal to every interaction! Use these little tricks to keep him itching to see you again. On a first date, instead of wearing a skin-tight dress, or a super form-fitting blouse, wear an off-the-shoulder shirt that shows off your neckline, collar bones and a flirty peek of bra strap. Let it slip out every once in a while, and then fix it like you’re hoping he didn’t notice. Then, add a little eye contact after your wardrobe adjustment, and immediately look away and laugh when he catches your eye as though a little embarrassed.

This sequence of events is like a magic spell that works on every guy you’ll meet. It may seem silly and goofy, but if you really want him to see you as that sexy girl-next-door once-in-a-lifetime catch, try it out! Sporadic use of flirty eye contact is always a game-winning move, so don’t be shy!

When it comes to setting yourself apart from all of the other girls out there, these three tips can be your secret weapons to win over Prince Charming. Use these on your

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By now, most dating sites have added instant messaging (IM) features. They’re a fun way to flirt in real time with people you’re interested in. IM can also be an easy way to gauge chemistry. After all, if you can’t hold a conversation over IM, it’s doubtful that you’ll be able to do so in person. However, you should exercise care with the feature. Because of the on-the-spot nature of IMs, it becomes especially vital to stay on your toes to ensure that the interest level of the person you’re chatting with remains high. If you inadvertently bore or offend them, the IM session is not going to end with the flirtatious exchange of phone numbers. However, using IM the right way is a great way to impress someone with your confidence and your skills as a conversationalist. Here’s how:

1. Don’t Start With “Hi”

While “hi” is a perfectly nice thing to say, it’s not incredibly interesting. Almost anyone who receives their fair share of attention on a dating site with IM features routinely gets so many “hi”s that they become easy to ignore. Your opener should make it obvious that you read their profile and were so interested that you simply had to IM them. For example, asking someone their opinion of the book that they just read cries out for a response much more urgently than a generic greeting. Think of something memorable and unique to them. The effort you put forth will put a smile on their face.

2. Ditch the Small Talk

Chit-chat about the weather or what you both did last weekend won’t do much to increase their interest level. Flex your conversational muscle. Be funny, witty, and always interesting. They’ll love the way your IMs keep them on their toes. Don’t be afraid to be confident and respectfully flirtatious. It’s a much bigger risk to be boring and safe, especially during a conversation that can end immediately. Don’t have them close your window with a yawn — keep it lively.

3. Keep the Conversation Short

Don’t overstay your welcome. Once it’s clear that they’re interested, bring the conversation to a gentle close. Leaving them wanting more is infinitely preferable to a long IM session that exhausts all conversation and has them ending it with a bored “Anyway…” Unless the interest level is through the roof for both of you, you probably shouldn’t ask for a date immediately. But you should advance the idea of a face-to-face meeting in the near future. Tell them about a cafe you love or a new restaurant you’re dying to try. Make it obvious that you’re interested in their company and that you intend to raise the stakes sooner rather than later. A little forwardness can work in your favor. Even during a first conversation.

4. Be Interesting — But Be Interested, Too

In your conversation, make it very clear that you read their profile. Ask them questions about themselves, about their careers and extracurricular passions. A genuine interest will be much more attractive to them than any line. Listening skills can be apparent even over IM. And, yes, they’re very attractive.

5. Use IM to Quickly Move Past IM

Even the most fascinating IM sessions will soon lose their thrill. After two or three (at most), ask for a face-to-face meeting and a number. Too many IMs will make them wonder if you’re looking for a chat buddy instead of a romantic partner. Once you rapidly escalate the interest level via IM, you should strike while your text banter still makes them smile. If you wait too long, they’ll undoubtedly move on to someone with more initiative.

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Are you a having hard time getting a guy to notice you? If so, you’re not alone. Most women are clueless when it comes to getting their dream guy’s attention. If you’ve ever spent an entire afternoon dreaming about how nice it would be if a certain someone would just make eye contact with you, or if you’ve ever wondered why the cute guy in your office never talks to you, there’s a good chance you’re not doing the right things to attract male attention. If you’re not doing the right thing to attract the attention of the opposite sex, you are seriously hurting your chances of ever finding Mr. Right.

Now, before you start panicking, I have some good news for you. Not only can you get men noticing you, you can actually take proactive steps to start turning heads every day. The best part is, you don’t even need to spend a penny to start doing it. With the right combination of eye contact, body language and touch, you can get under a guy’s skin so fast that he won’t know what hit him!

Eye Contact

Throughout the ages, the most lusted-after women have understood the importance of eye contact. Cleopatra, the Egyptian seducer of Mark Antony and Julius Caesar, was famed for the colorful makeup she used to highlight her eyes. This was not an accident: directing a man’s attention to your eyes is one of the most effective ways to get him to notice you. However, you cannot initiate the eye contact yourself, as that can come across as desperate or even manipulative. Instead, you have to get a guy to initiate eye contact with you. The best way to do this is to use eye makeup; like Cleopatra, use eye makeup (mascara, eye shadow) that brings out your eye color. For example, if you have blue eyes, use brown eye shadow, as it will bring out the blue eyes. Once you have caught a guy in your gaze, hold eye contact for a few seconds: this will show him your confidence, and arouse his curiosity.

Body Language

Once you have caught a man’s eye, you can hold his attention with your body language. The single most important thing to remember about body language is to always maintain good posture. Good posture means standing with your back straight and your shoulders held high. One technique that can help you develop good posture is to stand with your back against the wall so that your feet, butt, shoulders and head, are all touching the wall. Once you have lined your body up against the wall, try maintaining the exact same posture as you walk away from the wall. If you notice yourself starting to slouch, position yourself against the wall again, and start over. Once you are comfortable walking with your back straight, make a conscious effort to do it as much as possible out in public. If you do it correctly, men will take notice.

Touch

Of all the tactics you can use to get a man’s attention, none is riskier (or more rewarding) than using physical touch. Naturally, before you try this strategy, you need to know how to do it properly. The key to maintaining a man’s attention with touch is to be subtle, and to make sure he already has some interest before you make a move. Do not, under any circumstances, try touching a man you have not yet been speaking with; doing this enough is sure to earn you a reputation you do not want. Instead, when you have been talking to a man for a while, try touching him on the shoulder to emphasize a point. For example, if you and a guy are talking about musicians, and he mentions the name of a band that he likes, you can touch both of his shoulders emphatically as you mention that you like that band too. If done correctly, this will not only hold the man’s attention, but get him interested in you as well.

Of course, getting a guy to notice you is hardly an exact science. While the strategies mentioned above are great places to start, they are not the be all and end all of getting noticed. Naturally, your use of clothes, fragrances and makeup will play a role as well. However, if you want to go out tonight start turning heads as quickly as possible, you can’t go wrong with the potent combination of eyes, posture and touch.

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