Have you ever encountered a situation where you spotted an attractive female but didn’t approach because you weren’t sure if she was into you? Thanks to the subconscious signals she sends out, it’s easy to tell what’s on her mind by studying her body language. Whether in a bar or at the office, use the female body language tips below to determine if a woman is interested in getting to know you better.

1. Her gaze is always on you

If she can’t seem to take her eyes off you, she probably finds you attractive. Observe her gaze. Do her eyes seem to linger when she looks at you? Does she position her body in such a way so that she can keep her eyes on you? As an experiment, try moving to a different area of the room and see if her eyes follow you. These are sure female body language indications that she is interested in you and that you should introduce yourself. Also, pay attention to whether or not she holds eye contact with you during conversation instead of looking around the room or at her friends.

2. She points her feet in your direction

Whether she’s sitting or standing, take a look at the direction of her feet. A woman who is attracted to you will point her lower body in your direction. It is effectively a signal that says ‘I would like to go in this direction’.

3. She does things to get you to notice her

If she takes an unnecessarily long route to get somewhere and happens to pass by you, this indicates that she wants you to notice her. For example, she might deliberately pass by you on the way to the restroom even though the restroom is nowhere near you. This is a very clear invite and signals that she wants your attention.

4. She preens herself

When a woman knows you’ve observed her she’ll make a quick effort to look her best for you. She may do this by straightening her skirt of smoothing her hair. These female body language actions are often subconscious, though, so she may not even realize that she’s doing it.

5. She touches her hair

Most women are very particular about their hairstyle because it is one important way women show off their beauty. The way a woman touches or flicks her hair can be a sign that she is interested. If you see her tossing her hair back seductively or twirling and fondling her hair while looking in your direction, she is flirting with you for sure.

6. She laughs at your jokes

Once you approach her, tell her a funny story and pay attention to her reaction. If she openly laughs then she is probably into you. If she is interested in you, she will also listen intently as you speak and it will be apparent through her body language (head tilted, eyes focused, etc.).

7. She strokes herself or an object

Signs of interest or attraction also include enactment of sexually stimulating activities. For example, a woman might caress her arms, leg or face if she feels an attraction for you. This can mean ‘I would like to stroke you like this’ or ‘I would like you to stroke me like this’. Objects held may be also used in enactment displays which include stroking a wine glass, cigarette or any other object in close proximity.

8. She mirrors you

When a woman finds you attractive, you may be able to detect signs of mirroring which involves her mimicking your body language. This is an unconscious body language behavior and a definite indication that she is interested. Some examples of mirroring are taking a drink together or leaning back against the chair at the same time. She may also rest an elbow on the table at the same time as you or try to match the speed and tone of your voice. Pay close attention to see if she mimics your behavior in any way for signs of sexual attraction.

9. She moves in closer

If she feels attracted to you, she’ll sit or stand closer to you. Another great sign that a woman is flirting with you is that she moves in closer and closer and you continue to converse with her. She does this to show a desire to create more intimacy while between the two of you. Another trick she might use is to lower her voice so that you have to move in closer to her to hear what she’s saying. When you see her doing this, you’re receiving a definite sign of attraction and interest.

10. She touches you often

If a woman touches you during conversation it is another indication of her interest in you. This can be a simple touch on the hand or knee. Generally, the more intimate the touch and the longer it lasts the more she is interested.

Most body language experts like to apply the “Rule of Four” when determining if a woman is signaling attraction, so be alert for at least four of the above such indications. If she displays five or more signs of interest, you have definitely captured her attention and can be confident that she finds you attractive. Keep in mind, however, that even if some of the above body language signals are present, she could just be interested in keeping you as a friend so always be polite and respect her space.

Remember these 10 signs that she is attracted to you the next time you encounter a woman you find attractive, and you‘ll become an expert at decoding female body language in no time!

By Salena Quinn

Flirting Attraction, Body Language, Flirting

You don’t want to be the poor sucker who whines to his buds about all the time and money he wasted on whatshername (you know, that cutie who ran hot and cold until she finally burned him for good!) The truth is, you don’t want a woman who has to play hard to get – you want the one who is hard to get. (Well, not hard for you to get, but impossible for those other guys!) You’re looking for the one who offers what all men want – a vixen in the bedroom, and who is fun and worthwhile elsewhere. Pay attention to the differences between these critical signals when you’re getting to know the fortunate femme who caught your eye.

CATCHABLE: A woman who has her own interests is good.
SKIPPER: A woman who relies on you to make her feel good about herself.

When she says she can’t see you this weekend, but offers an alternative day, she’s showing you that she is interested in you. She’s also showing you that she can keep her word to people, even if that means keeping her promise to herself to get her homework done. A busy woman might be legitimately hard to get, but worth the extra effort.

On the other hand, a woman who declines your invitation and is unwilling to commit to an alternate plan is either not that interested or she’s playing mind games. Either way, you lose. Set your scope on someone who deserves your attention.

CATCHABLE: A woman who refuses to date you while working things out with him.
SKIPPER: A woman who agrees to date you while she’s still seeing another guy.

Any woman who keeps her eye out for the next best thing that comes along isn’t worth a second glance. Does this need any further explanation? Don’t fall for her sad story. Even though you dream of being the prince that saves her from that mean ol’ dragon, once she’s in your arms, you’ll become the next fire-breathing menace in her life. She’s not mature enough to handle relationships on her own, and that includes the one you get into with her.

If she lets you know she is interested but wants to take care of unfinished business with a soon-to-be ex, ask her how long it will require. If her answer is “I don’t know,” or she expects it to take more than two weeks, step aside and date women who are available to be with you, because this one’s not ready to give up her baggage. She needs to end that relationship and take time to heal from it before jumping into a new one. A sound rule of thumb is to wait until she’s been single a week for each month they were together. If she was with him more than two or three years, give it at least six months.

CATCHABLE: A woman who says she’s interested, and shows it.
SKIPPER: A woman who claims she’s interested, but doesn’t always act like it.

If she flirts with other guys when you’re not around (or even when you are) after you’ve let her know it bothers you, either she’s not that interested or you are too sensitive. If she’s into you, she’ll stop if she really has been crossing a line. If she claims you’re being too possessive, she might be right, but she’s not right for you. Set her free to find someone who gets turned on by such behavior and find someone who shows that she can appreciate your values.

Flirting isn’t the only way a woman can act disinterested. Some women are coached to believe that if they are unavailable to you, it will pique your interest. It’s true that too much togetherness can breed boredom, so don’t panic if your sweetheart decides to go out with other friends instead of seeing you this weekend. Conversely, if you discover that she’s unavailable too often, ignoring your calls and texts, spending time with an ex, or doing things that violate your principles, be open about your expectations. Recognize if her reaction is anything short of respectful disagreement. She doesn’t have to have your values, but she does have to care about them, doesn’t she?

If she is inconsiderate in any way, carefully consider her response. An interested woman will take your concerns seriously. A manipulative one will become defensive. If her response is to find something to blame you for, or to deny your perceptions, it’s a subtle indicator that she doesn’t see you as her equal. Instead, she thinks her own values and interests are more important than yours. It might not seem like a big deal right now, but after months or years of this attitude coming at you, it will blossom into a major power struggle over minor issues – one that is unlikely to ever get resolved.

A woman who is attracted and interested won’t give you mixed signals. If you’re confused by your current girlfriend’s behavior, these three principles will help you get things back on track or let you get off that train. You won’t be that sad sucker who elicits pity from his friends. Instead, you’ll have the confidence that comes with knowing that you won’t get taken for a ride.

By Kathy Batesel

Relationships Flirting, Hard to Get, Mind Games, Self Confidence, Women

We’ve talked before in our blog about how niche dating sites are the most popular today. Niche dating sites allow daters to really narrow their focus based on many different things. Some sites target a certain type of people, like single parents of those of a particular faith, while others target people looking for a specific activity, such as arranged marriage.

There’s a new site in Europe that’s aimed at those who just want to have fun. “Flirt Naughty” isn’t a site for those who are looking for a marriage partner, but rather for those looking for a no strings attached hookup and casual dating. “Flirt Naughty’s” director of marketing, Paul Fitzpatrick said the company felt that there were lots of traditional dating sites aimed at those who are looking for long term relationships, but fewer for those who just want to have some casual fun. Flirt Naughty is owned by Global Personals, which owns several other dating sites. Flirt Naughty offers the features you’d expect from online dating sites. You can send emails, text messages, have video dates and create video dating diaries, too.

So, if you’re looking for a new casual dating site, you can still be one of the earliest members at Flirt Naughty. But, hurry; they appear to be growing pretty fast.

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