Dating videos, designed to help people attract the opposite sex, have been around for quite a while. But a new series of dating videos called “Instant Attraction” have caught the attention of more than just the men they were aimed at.

It seems that the “Instant Attraction” videos are getting a lot of things right because their methods employ a lot of research into the psychology of attraction. They spent a lot of time looking at why two different men can have such disparity in their ability to attract women, even when they are of equal attractiveness. What Mark Sing, the creator of the Instant Attraction videos, has learned is that men must employ a certain psychology and thought process to attract women easily. His method employs steps that men who attract women easily are using already, and Sing is proud of the fact that he took the time to do a lot of research on what works when trying to attract women.

The videos have been so successful that psychologists are now studying them to get better insight into male/female attraction psychology. I think that fact alone makes it pretty clear that Sing and his videos are onto something!

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We’ve all heard that open communication is the key to a good relationship. But, do we really know what that means? What’s the difference between open communication and simply talking to our mate about our day to day lives? Here are some keys to using communication to make your relationship work.

• Don’t assume that your partner knows how you feel – This is one of men’s pet peeves about women – we don’t tell them what we want. When we assume that our partner can read our thoughts or feelings, we set ourselves up to be disappointed when they don’t respond the way we would like. Tell your partner how you feel, and even be willing to tell them how you need them to respond when necessary.
• Be a good listener – When your partner talks to you, really listen to what they’re saying. If you are immediately defensive or dismissive with your partner when they try to address an issue, they will begin to believe that you don’t value their feelings and that talking to you is fruitless.
• Don’t bottle things up inside- Address issues when they arise. I know this is easier said than done. Fear of the reaction we might get when we bring up something unpleasant is the biggest reason we avoid it. But, when we hold things in, we create tension and frustration, which makes us more likely to get angry when we finally do discuss the situation with our partner. Talking about issues when they come up helps us to keep the issues in perspective and avoid tension and frustration.

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Experts say that body language is more than 50% of our communication. So, when you’re out meeting people, or on a first date, it’s a good idea to be able to read these body cues. Here’s a sample of what some of these positions and gestures mean.

• An asymmetrical sitting position – Sitting on the diagonal toward a person is an indication of interest. Sometimes women will cross their legs with the foot on top pointing right at the man she’s interested in.
• She licks her lips – Women often lick their lips without even realizing it when she an attractive man.
• His eyebrows are raised – Men often raise their eyebrows when making eye contact with a woman they’re attracted to.
• He’ll stand tall with his muscles tight – Consider this the female equivalent of holding in your stomach.
• Mirroring – People who are flirting tend to mirror each other’s movements. If one person leans in to say something, the other leans in to hear it.
• Pupils – When we like someone we’re talking to, our pupils dilate.
• She plays with her hair – This is one of the most common ways a woman gives away that she’s interested. Men may also smooth their hair or adjust their tie.

Pay attention to the body language you’re giving and receiving the next time you’re out. It may be much easier to figure out who is interested in you… and to let them know that you’re interested too.

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