You’re talking to someone and they seem to be nice. You exchange a few emails, a few winks, and you even use a video chat feature. Everything seems to be going great.

And then a few days pass.

And then another few days pass without hearing anything back.

What did you do wrong?

Chances are good that you didn’t do anything wrong and that you are just the victim of a normal fact of life – the prospective partner just didn’t pan out. They might not have been interested in you or they may very well have found someone else.

You just never know.

But instead of crying over this date, let’s take a moment to reassess where things went wrong.

Did you ask them out after only a few emails? Many people don’t. Instead, they carry on these long and involved conversations over email that last months, only to find themselves not hearing back from this person they really thought they connected with.

Have you heard of the phrase – all talk and no action? That’s exactly what you’re doing wrong.

You need to be ready to meet this person in person after a few messages. This will save you both a lot of trouble as you will decide immediately whether or not this person is worth your time. If not, no harm done. If so, then you can start a real relationship.

After all, it gets lonely sitting in front of a computer night after night. You need more.

And when you ask for more, you never fail.

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While we can sit back and point out all of the flaws in our dating life, maybe it’s time to start pointing out what we’ve done right – for a change. So often, we sit and we wonder, “Why am I alone?” But while this question is not going to be quieted any time soon, the validity of asking it in the first place is questionable.

Here’s the thing – being single is not a disease or something that needs to be ‘fixed.’ In thinking that you have some sort of problem, you begin to create the feeling that YOU are the problem.

And as the saying goes, “It takes two to tango.”

Being in a relationship (or not) is rarely the fault of one person. Since you need to have two people come together who both enjoy each other’s company and who are actively ready to be in a relationship, it’s almost as though the stars do need to align in a very precise manner in order for love to blossom.

Instead of simply giving up and taking the blame, you need to get out and start living the life you do have. Sign up for classes, become a part of your neighborhood watch, etc. Do things that make you happy. After all, people want to date someone who’s vibrant and alive – not someone who’s mopey.

That part IS your fault. But fixing it is easy.

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Even though you might be single now, that doesn’t mean you have to be alone in your hunt for someone to date. The truth is that you need a sort of wingman (or wing-woman) to help you navigate the online dating scene, while you also need a dating buddy to commiserate with as you jump into the dating pool.

There are a few things you should look for in your dating buddy:

• Someone who is looking for love too
• Someone who has been successful on the site you’re using
• Someone who is positive
• Someone who will motivate you to take chances

You want someone to make sure you are buddy-ing up with someone who will push you to try things that you normally wouldn’t. That is, if you get rejected on the site by someone, your buddy is the one that tells you to try again anyway – not to give up.

You also want someone who is going to be completely honest with you when you need that dose of reality. If your profile needs work or you simply need to take more chances winking at people or emailing those that you like, your buddy should be telling you so.

Together, you just might find love and then you won’t need a dating buddy anymore – but you can then start being each other’s relationship buddy.

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