Whether it’s the winter or the upcoming reminder of your single-ness (otherwise known as Valentine’s Day), you might find yourself thinking of your ex more when they’re not around. And though you had a good list of reasons for breaking up with them, you can’t help but wonder:

What if we tried again? Could it work this time?

You start to remember all of the good times, and despite any dating advice to the contrary, you begin to plan out a way to ‘accidentally’ bump into your ex and try to start up a new conversation.

Does this ever really work? It might. Here are some tips to improve your chances.

Ask your friends first whether it’s a good idea – When you’re the only one with the good memories, you might have a biased view of the situation. Ask a trusted friend to tell you the truth about what your ex is really like.

Check to make sure they’re available – There’s no sense in going after someone who is married or dating someone else.

Don’t have any expectations – Though your relationship used to be one way, chances are good that it will be different this time, so if you’re looking for that old relationship, you might be disappointed.

Dating an ex might be a way to finally get some closure on a relationship that didn’t quite make it, or it might be a fresh start to love. Either way, you’re not the only one who’s considered it. But you might be one the few that succeeds.

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You go onto an online dating site, maybe to find out if an ex is there, just to see how he or she is doing. You connect with them or with someone else that seems interesting to you. The catch? You’re married already. And your marriage isn’t in shambles, and you aren’t unhappy, but you just wanted to see how the waters of online dating might treat you.

It’s an ego boost when you get a response and it feels good to have someone talk to you and to tell you all the things you want to hear. But when you’re already married, not only are you leading the other person on, but you’re also hurting the relationship you’re in right now.

Here are some signs that you need to start talking to your spouse more than you need to be on online dating websites:

• You spend hours on online dating sites
• You don’t tell your partner about your internet activity
• You hide your online history or delete it entirely
• You talk more to your online dates than you do to your spouse
• You don’t mention that you’re married

While there are bad marriages out there and there are times when you might want to talk to someone else about things you need in your life, the truth is that going behind your spouse’s back isn’t necessarily the way to solve your problems.

Maybe it’s time to get offline and start talking to your spouse instead.

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Getting married is one of the happiest moments of many people’s lives. You make a promise to be with someone else for the rest of your life and you solemnly swear in front of a minister and your family that you intend to keep that promise. However, not every fairy tale wedding ends ‘happily ever after.’

More marriages than ever are ending up in divorce, which means that there are more single people dating that have been married before.

When you’ve been married before, you begin to have different needs. You want more from relationships than you might of in the past, or perhaps you want less. Thankfully, divorce isn’t greeted with the stigma that it was in the past, though it can still make you hesitant to date after divorce and find love in the future. And what’s more, there are plenty of dating services created especially for previously married singles.

This is why online dating is becoming the wave of the future in terms of divorced singles. You get the opportunity to let people know exactly what you want and don’t want from a partner, as well as the ability to meet other divorcees like yourself. You can also slowly get back into dating by simply browsing the dating site and waiting until the time feels right.

If you are newly divorced, it might be a good idea to wait a little while before trying to date. You might still be harboring some emotional issues that need to be dealt with before you bring someone special into your life. But if you’ve been divorced for a time and you feel that you can be a good partner in a new relationship, then why not try online dating?

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