Everyone knows that girl. She somehow gets nonstop attention from countless male suitors, seemingly without any effort at all, and every girl hates her for it. Well, get ready to be hated and admired by all of your friends, because if you follow these three easy tips you’ll have every guy you meet wrapped around your little finger! When it comes to first dates, it’s all about how you come off to your new love interest.

Guys are interested in a girl who is fun, exciting, exotic, and most importantly, NOT CLINGY. This seems impossible at times—girls need a lot of attention!—but with these three tips, you are sure to have your cake and eat it too. You’ll come off as sexy and aloof, and he’ll be so intrigued that he’ll be calling and texting you nonstop for a second date!

The first tip is a golden rule that every girl should follow on a first date; try to keep from talking about your self too much! It’s a proven fact that humans love to talk about themselves, so try asking him some interesting questions about himself! If you ask questions that allow him not only to talk, but to brag a little about his strengths and talents, he’ll start to feel confident and masculine around you and have no idea why! When you do talk about yourself, try to keep the conversation fun.

Don’t talk about all the girls you hate and the ten reasons why you hate each one—or your best friend and all of her drama—guys aren’t interested, and drama scares them away! So keep it cool, ask him questions, and answer his with poise and a little sass!

The second tip is the easiest one to understand, but the hardest one to follow; after your first date goes well, ignore him! Okay, don’t ignore him per se, but do try to let him be the one to contact you first. Think about it; how do you feel when a guy doesn’t call you back right away? Even if the first date was awful, he suddenly starts to be all you can think about!

Well it’s time to turn the tables and make him crave that next text from you! If you two hit it off, keep in mind it’s important to take a few extra minutes to text or call back every once in a while. It’s amazing just how much of an effect this one simple trick can have on a guy. There’s a certain mystique about a girl who isn’t constantly fawning all over you!

The third tip is fun and sexy; try to add a little sex appeal to every interaction! Use these little tricks to keep him itching to see you again. On a first date, instead of wearing a skin-tight dress, or a super form-fitting blouse, wear an off-the-shoulder shirt that shows off your neckline, collar bones and a flirty peek of bra strap. Let it slip out every once in a while, and then fix it like you’re hoping he didn’t notice. Then, add a little eye contact after your wardrobe adjustment, and immediately look away and laugh when he catches your eye as though a little embarrassed.

This sequence of events is like a magic spell that works on every guy you’ll meet. It may seem silly and goofy, but if you really want him to see you as that sexy girl-next-door once-in-a-lifetime catch, try it out! Sporadic use of flirty eye contact is always a game-winning move, so don’t be shy!

When it comes to setting yourself apart from all of the other girls out there, these three tips can be your secret weapons to win over Prince Charming. Use these on your

Flirting Attraction, Flirting, Men

Attractive, smart, and successful men everywhere may be puzzled by the lack of response to their online dating profiles. This article outlines five top reasons why women may be quick to reject certain men on dating sites.

Online dating is an increasingly popular way for eligible men to meet interesting woman, but, unfortunately, this avenue isn’t immune to the snap judgments and superficial filters commonplace in conventional dating. In fact, because dating sites allow women to effortlessly search, block, and favorite potential mates, creating the illusion of a never ending supply of suitors, guys must be especially careful when crafting their online dating personas to avoid immediate dismissal. Here are some top reasons why your profile might have women quickly fumbling for the back button.

1 – You sound unbelievable full of yourself

Resist the urge to treat your profile like a diary/resume, as you risk appearing painfully self-obsessed. Yes, we want to know more about you, but your 2,000 word essay detailing your ten year ascension into your perfect job just makes you sound pompous and self-aggrandizing. Instead, opt for more generalized language, like ‘successful financial planner,’ or ‘very happy with my job.’ This brings home the point, while still piquing our interests.

2 – Your picture is kind of creepy

Online dating has the distinct advantage of giving users full control of first impressions, making it almost inexcusable to display strange or unflattering pictures. Avoid pictures that were taken from an awkwardly low angle, that include your shower curtain as the backdrop, or that feature you in a fedora. Forgo the hard, aloof expressions best suited for male models, using instead pictures that showcase a warm, genuine smile. Try pictures from a night out with friends or from your best friend’s wedding, as you will likely exude personality and confidence. Just remember to crop, particularly if your buddy is slightly more attractive. And if you like to include body shots, please adhere to a 2:1 ratio of clothed to shirtless photos.

3 – You create unreasonably high expectations

Even a beautiful, confident woman may be taken aback by a laundry list of partner requirements, particularly if they’re mostly superficial. Instead, politely mention deal breakers, such as smoking or having nine cats, while describing a few of your preferences using welcoming language. (“Although, I appreciate women of all shapes, I find myself often attracted to curvy women.”) Refrain from posting any pictures with a svelte, devastating hot friend or ex-girlfriend, as this just invites women to see how they stack up. And, under no circumstances, mention by name any models or actresses who you think are the ‘ideal woman.’ Not only is it exceedingly unlikely you’ll woo her carbon copy, but you run the risk of sending away an attractive women with feelings of inadequacy.

4 -You sound stupid

Yes, you list your occupation as a civil engineer, but your grammar and syntax are deplorable. Is it fair to conclude that you’re unintelligent because you failed to use the past perfect tense while describing your recent vacation? No, but without the benefit of conversation or nonverbal cues, we are forced to use something to gauge your intelligence. So turn off caps lock, spell out any text shorthand, and take ten minutes to copy and paste text into a word processing document for spelling and grammar help. This way we can focus on what a great guy you are, not your inadequate use of punctuation.

5. You sound like you’re looking for sex

If you are actually looking exclusively for casual sex, feel free to skip this one. But for those men who are looking for something more, please be aware that certain words and phrases, such as ‘healthy sex drive’ or ‘enjoys being physical,’ send the message that a shallow, physical relationship is your main objective. Either you will attract women who seek that particular type of relationship or repel the ones who do not. Rest assured that any woman reading your profile assumes you like sex, so don’t feel compelled to needlessly reference your carnal desires. Instead, use that space to describe your most enduring personality characteristics that would make us swoon at the chance to be with you emotionally and sexually.

Remember that the real key to online dating is capturing a woman’s interest enough to set up an offline meeting. With some thoughtful editing and mindfulness to presentation, you can increase your chances of finding a wonderful mate.

Personal Profiles First Impressions, Men, Personal Profiles

Many websites are written for and by men offer dating advice that you can use in the online dating arena. But with all of sites that are available, wouldn’t it be easier if you had a ‘cheat sheet’ of the dating advice that really matters in the online dating playing field? Here are the things you need to know before you head to your computer.

• Honesty works – While you don’t want to remind your potential dates that you haven’t been on a date in ten years, there’s nothing wrong with being honest about the important things. If you’re not interested, tell the person. You want to start off any potential relationship on the right foot. Make sure to be honest about what you look like, what you like to do, and other details. If you get caught in a lie, it can look worse than the truth.
• Remember that there are plenty of dates out there – When you start accepting dates because you’re afraid that no one else will talk to you, you’re going to start accepting dates with people that just aren’t right for you and may even be dangerous. Remember that there are always more dates available – and that you’re worth the time of looking for the right one.
• Avoid sex talk for a while – Unless you’re going to a site that’s explicitly just for sexual hook ups, you want to avoid any sexual talk until you get to know the other person a little bit better. You don’t want to look like the only thing you’re interested in is sex.
• Avoid sending carbon-copy e-mails to lots and lots of women. Although dating can turn out to be a game of lotto for men, remember that nobody is flattered by a scripted, impersonal letter. Make your letters personal – you’ve much more chance of being noticed that way.

New to online dating? Read more in Online Dating for Beginners.

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