Many websites are written for and by men offer dating advice that you can use in the online dating arena. But with all of sites that are available, wouldn’t it be easier if you had a ‘cheat sheet’ of the dating advice that really matters in the online dating playing field? Here are the things you need to know before you head to your computer.

• Honesty works – While you don’t want to remind your potential dates that you haven’t been on a date in ten years, there’s nothing wrong with being honest about the important things. If you’re not interested, tell the person. You want to start off any potential relationship on the right foot. Make sure to be honest about what you look like, what you like to do, and other details. If you get caught in a lie, it can look worse than the truth.
• Remember that there are plenty of dates out there – When you start accepting dates because you’re afraid that no one else will talk to you, you’re going to start accepting dates with people that just aren’t right for you and may even be dangerous. Remember that there are always more dates available – and that you’re worth the time of looking for the right one.
• Avoid sex talk for a while – Unless you’re going to a site that’s explicitly just for sexual hook ups, you want to avoid any sexual talk until you get to know the other person a little bit better. You don’t want to look like the only thing you’re interested in is sex.
• Avoid sending carbon-copy e-mails to lots and lots of women. Although dating can turn out to be a game of lotto for men, remember that nobody is flattered by a scripted, impersonal letter. Make your letters personal – you’ve much more chance of being noticed that way.

New to online dating? Read more in Online Dating for Beginners.

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It’s no secret that many women are attracted to confident men. Just ask any woman what she finds attractive in a man, and chances are that confidence and self assurance will be high on her list. Very few women are attracted to men lacking confidence or with low self esteem. Being shy or introverted can be a real handicap when it comes to approaching women. So why is this so? Why is confidence so important to women? In these days of equality, you’d think that this would have less significance. After all, men aren’t so fussy. Well, the modern world may have changed, but when it comes to finding a partner, our desires are pretty much the same as they were centuries ago.

To a woman, a man’s confidence is one indication of his status. He can speak his mind knowing that others will listen. Men who have high self-esteem often have the respect of others. A confident man makes a women feel attractive and sexy, while men who are too submissive or lack the confidence to speak their mind will sadly have a hard time getting noticed.

Confidence is about how you feel about yourself. A lack of confidence can nearly always be traced to feelings of self-doubt and low self esteem. You may be a “nice guy”, but if you’re failing at the first hurdle when approaching women, it could very well be down to your lack of confidence. People who appear the most confident are not necessarily better, more intelligent, or more attractive than those who lack confidence. People that appear outwardly confident may have insecurities and fears just like the rest of us. However the difference is that they believe in themselves.

Given that this can be make-or-break for many women, it’s worth putting in a little effort to help improve low self esteem. Anyone can be more confident with a little effort and a little practice. There’s some excellent advice online, for instance the website Self-Confidence.co.uk has many self help articles and confidence boosters, and there’s even an online course that you can take. Read more on how to improve confidence.

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There’s a difference between attracting men and attracting the right kind of men. Even when you’re online, there are plenty of things that you can do to make sure that Mr. Right looks your way.

• Be yourself – There’s nothing more important than being yourself with a guy. When you start to act like someone else to impress a guy, you will attract guys that are attracted to your ‘fake’ self. But you can’t keep up the charade forever, and you’ll both realize that you really weren’t a good match in the first place.
• Be happy – There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who is smiling or who is optimistic. When you’re satisfied with your life and you’re having a good time, men can tell. They want to be a part of that good time too. There’s no need to be serious unless that’s the way that you are.
• Be friendly – While you might not want to attract a certain guy, there’s no reason to be mean with him. This is especially true when you’re in the bar scene. Do you really think that that next guy that you want to talk to is going to be interested in someone that just was rude to another man that she doesn’t even know? When in doubt, politeness wins.
• Play up your assets – No, not those. When you’re out on the dating scene, try to draw attention to the parts of yourself that you like. Like your neck? Try a scoop neck shirt and a nice necklace. Like your face? Try on some attractive makeup. When you draw attention to your strong features, you will attract a man to your confident nature.
• Leave something to the imagination – While you might want to dress provocatively, that isn’t always the best course of action. Most men actually enjoy a woman who doesn’t reveal all in the first few minutes of talking. Try wearing something that is flattering, but that doesn’t reveal too much flesh. There’s always another time to do that.

The best advice is to be confident that you are someone that is worth a second look – because you are!

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