Everyone wants to find the perfect partner. It seems to come more easily for some people than for others. Perhaps one of the reasons that many people find it so difficult to find a partner has to do with the expectations they have of their relationships and their partner.

It’s important to be realistic about what you want and need from a mate. Nobody’s perfect, and no relationship is perfect. If you find yourself having trouble finding the right partner, or the right relationship, keep the following three things in mind when you consider what’s really important to you.

• Be open to types you haven’t considered –I can’t even count the number of female friends who have immediately ruled out a man as a potential partner for some superficial reason, without even getting to know him first. Expectations like “they must have a college degree” or “they can’t have been married before” limit the number of people we are open to meeting, and may cause us to pass over someone who could have been the love of our life.
• Don’t expect to find someone who likes everything you like – Many people are looking for their mirror image. Not only will this prove difficult to find, but if you do find it, you might end up being incredibly bored. It is important to agree on basic values and goals, but beyond that, liking all the same things is not necessary. 15 years ago if you had told me that I would have married an ex-Navy sailor who loved antique cars and fishing, I would have said you were crazy. But that’s who I ended up marrying and it has worked beautifully in part because we’re so different.
• Don’t expect your partner to meet all your emotional needs- Expecting one person to fulfill all your needs is not only unrealistic, but it puts a terrible burden on your partner. Both of you will still need to have friends and interests apart from each other in order to be fulfilled.

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Getting married is one of the happiest moments of many people’s lives. You make a promise to be with someone else for the rest of your life and you solemnly swear in front of a minister and your family that you intend to keep that promise. However, not every fairy tale wedding ends ‘happily ever after.’

More marriages than ever are ending up in divorce, which means that there are more single people dating that have been married before.

When you’ve been married before, you begin to have different needs. You want more from relationships than you might of in the past, or perhaps you want less. Thankfully, divorce isn’t greeted with the stigma that it was in the past, though it can still make you hesitant to date after divorce and find love in the future. And what’s more, there are plenty of dating services created especially for previously married singles.

This is why online dating is becoming the wave of the future in terms of divorced singles. You get the opportunity to let people know exactly what you want and don’t want from a partner, as well as the ability to meet other divorcees like yourself. You can also slowly get back into dating by simply browsing the dating site and waiting until the time feels right.

If you are newly divorced, it might be a good idea to wait a little while before trying to date. You might still be harboring some emotional issues that need to be dealt with before you bring someone special into your life. But if you’ve been divorced for a time and you feel that you can be a good partner in a new relationship, then why not try online dating?

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Does what you do with you body really say something about how you feel?

Dating coaches say yes.

The way you and your partner move reveals how you’re feeling about your relationship at a deeper level. See Reading Body Language in Depth, for some general ideas about the subject.

To test this out, I went to my local pub last night to do some people-watching.

The first couple I noticed was a man and a woman sitting at the bar. Seated side-by-side, they gave the impression of being quite into each other. They weren’t rigid, but openly turned face-to-face. Many of their gestures crossed into the ‘personal space’ of the other…getting close, but never quite touching. Maybe they were on a date! They smiled and laughed. And you could just tell they wanted to be close to one another.

Another couple, seated at a table next to me, also appeared to be very much in sync. They did some ‘mirroring’….(psychological theories suggest ‘mirroring’ another’s body language strengthens relations with them)….but it didn’t seem like something they did on purpose.

She would lean in…..then he would lean in.
She would put her arm back…..then he would put his arm back.
He would touch his hair…..then she would play with her hair.
And on, and on.

Though they weren’t sitting as close to each other as the people at the bar (these two were across from each other), they intently looked one another in the eyes while speaking. They smiled and laughed in a relaxed manner. And their ease with each other made it seem as if they had been together for a long time.

Outside a few people walked by. But the only couple I saw didn’t look too happy. A man with a frown was walking just ahead of his female companion, who hurried to keep up with him – her head to the ground! While they may or may not have been a romantic couple, their body language (i.e. head down & frown) indicated that they were not terribly close to one another (as friends or anything else for that matter!) at that particular moment.

Checking out body language is a fun experiment anyone can try.

Next time you go out, look around you. See what kind of signals people actually give off.

A lot can be learned just by looking…

And this can certainly help in your own relationship!

Do you want to know…

Are they mad, but just not telling you???

…rather than ask them, watch them!

You might be surprised at just what their body is telling you.

Wishing you luck in love…
Veronika Cardes

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