Getting married is one of the happiest moments of many people’s lives. You make a promise to be with someone else for the rest of your life and you solemnly swear in front of a minister and your family that you intend to keep that promise. However, not every fairy tale wedding ends ‘happily ever after.’

More marriages than ever are ending up in divorce, which means that there are more single people dating that have been married before.

When you’ve been married before, you begin to have different needs. You want more from relationships than you might of in the past, or perhaps you want less. Thankfully, divorce isn’t greeted with the stigma that it was in the past, though it can still make you hesitant to date after divorce and find love in the future. And what’s more, there are plenty of dating services created especially for previously married singles.

This is why online dating is becoming the wave of the future in terms of divorced singles. You get the opportunity to let people know exactly what you want and don’t want from a partner, as well as the ability to meet other divorcees like yourself. You can also slowly get back into dating by simply browsing the dating site and waiting until the time feels right.

If you are newly divorced, it might be a good idea to wait a little while before trying to date. You might still be harboring some emotional issues that need to be dealt with before you bring someone special into your life. But if you’ve been divorced for a time and you feel that you can be a good partner in a new relationship, then why not try online dating?

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Does what you do with you body really say something about how you feel?

Dating coaches say yes.

The way you and your partner move reveals how you’re feeling about your relationship at a deeper level. See Reading Body Language in Depth, for some general ideas about the subject.

To test this out, I went to my local pub last night to do some people-watching.

The first couple I noticed was a man and a woman sitting at the bar. Seated side-by-side, they gave the impression of being quite into each other. They weren’t rigid, but openly turned face-to-face. Many of their gestures crossed into the ‘personal space’ of the other…getting close, but never quite touching. Maybe they were on a date! They smiled and laughed. And you could just tell they wanted to be close to one another.

Another couple, seated at a table next to me, also appeared to be very much in sync. They did some ‘mirroring’….(psychological theories suggest ‘mirroring’ another’s body language strengthens relations with them)….but it didn’t seem like something they did on purpose.

She would lean in…..then he would lean in.
She would put her arm back…..then he would put his arm back.
He would touch his hair…..then she would play with her hair.
And on, and on.

Though they weren’t sitting as close to each other as the people at the bar (these two were across from each other), they intently looked one another in the eyes while speaking. They smiled and laughed in a relaxed manner. And their ease with each other made it seem as if they had been together for a long time.

Outside a few people walked by. But the only couple I saw didn’t look too happy. A man with a frown was walking just ahead of his female companion, who hurried to keep up with him – her head to the ground! While they may or may not have been a romantic couple, their body language (i.e. head down & frown) indicated that they were not terribly close to one another (as friends or anything else for that matter!) at that particular moment.

Checking out body language is a fun experiment anyone can try.

Next time you go out, look around you. See what kind of signals people actually give off.

A lot can be learned just by looking…

And this can certainly help in your own relationship!

Do you want to know…

Is she really in to you?
Is he trying to brush you off?

Are they mad, but just not telling you???

…rather than ask them, watch them!

You might be surprised at just what their body is telling you.

Wishing you luck in love…
Veronika Cardes

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Cheating partners may not seem like a big deal unless you suspect you might have one.

I just finished reading 46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair and it got me thinking. Just how many people are sneaking off with someone else?

The internet leads to all kinds of numbers on cheating. Some surveys found over 50% of the people polled to be unfaithful (both men and women!). Think that’s worrying? Consider this: studies done worldwide show that about 2 of every 10 of us were born as the result of an affair!

You can even find websites dedicated to catching cheating partners. If you’re thinking of dating somebody, maybe you want to check if they are a serial cheater! One of these sites is Woman Savers, which is a forum for women to “dish the dirt” on cheating men and inform whole world about them (photos included).

If all of this is so, and we generally have a number of partners throughout our lives, doesn’t this mean that at some point we have a cheater on our hands? And if we have one, do we know it? Or do we turn a blind eye?

Reflecting on the people in my own life, I realize that a great many of them or their partners have cheated in one relationship or another. Some are serial cheaters, but many have only done it once. No one is really immune!

Knowing what to look for – beyond just the classic lipstick on the collar sign – will help you be more aware. So have a look through these 46 clues.

A word of caution with stuff like this…

You might panic thinking, ‘Number 3 sounds familiar. So do 6 & 10. And 14, 19, 25, & 40 too!’

But before you march off to declare your loved one an adulterer, wait a minute.
Relax!

Ask yourself… could there be another explanation? Sometimes there is. It’s tricky, but remember that doing something rash could end-up hurting your relationship for no reason. People generally don’t take well to being accused of cheating, especially when they’re not.

This doesn’t mean you should let your guard down.
Just pay attention.

A particularly good piece of advice from the list is to observe how your partners’ friends and coworkers behave towards you. You can even extend this to relatives too. There’s a good chance that if your partner has stopped confiding in you, then s/he is talking to someone else. And while your beloved may be good at lying to you, others may have trouble doing so. But again, this can be tricky…and you must use a great deal of tact. Otherwise you risk damaging your rapport with these people if they sense you don’t trust your partner and are just hunting-down info.

If you haven’t yet reached the point of suspicion, then take action!
You can do something to limit the chances your partner might wander.

Whether you’ve been together for ten weeks or ten years…don’t forget that relationships always need some revamping to stay fresh. No matter how tired or busy you feel, putting extra effort into your relationship now (before an affair starts) will save you heartache down the road.

Don’t let things fizzle out.
Put some time into revitalizing your bond today.

Wishing you luck in love…
Veronika Cardes

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