The New York Post just published an article about online dating that gives the following statistics, as compiled by OKCupid:

• Men are on average 2 inches shorter than they say in their profiles
• Women are an inch shorter.
• About 50 percent of daters lie about their weight.
• Almost everyone exaggerates their income by 20 percent

So, are you a liar, too? If so, it’s time to question why you’re lying. In many cases people lie online to attract more partners, (though I’m not certain what in the world an inch or two of extra height does for you), thinking that by the time they meet in person, the other party will like them so much that the lie won’t matter, or in the case of income, that the other person won’t find out.

But, lying is a dangerous game. It doesn’t really matter if you never meet them. But, if you find a person who could be “the one” your little white profile lies could really come back to haunt you.

I once went out with a guy I met online who lied – a lot- about his weight. His profile picture was one taken from several years before, when he weighed about 50 pounds less.

Now, I didn’t really care what the guy weighed. He was very well kempt, dressed well, and overall was reasonably attractive. What I had a problem with was the lie. It immediately made me wonder what else he lied about, and why he didn’t think he was good enough at his real weight. Needless to say, the first meeting didn’t go all that well, and I’m sure he left thinking I was shallow and thought he was fat.

So, next time you’re tempted to lie, consider the worst case scenario of being found out. Is it worth the risk?

You can read the NY Post article here.

Dating Essentials Lies, Online Safety, Personal Profiles

When you’ve found someone online, you want to shout it from the rooftops. You’re happy, you’re dating, and you can finally stop saying that you’re the ‘single friend’ whom everyone pities.

Feels good, doesn’t it?

However, once you get to this point, you might find it difficult to take down that online profile. After all, this relationship might not work, so why not keep your options open?

You aren’t alone. You want to make sure the next Mr. or Mrs. Right can still find you, but isn’t this taking away from your confidence in your current relationship? Absolutely.

You need to give the relationship you have right now the best shot possible – and that means taking down that online profile (yes, all of them) or turning it to an ‘inactive’ mode. This way, you aren’t going to get distracted by all of the potential dates out there. You know, the ones that only seem to pop up when you’re already taken?

If your current partner found you online, they’re not going to think you’re too serious if they can still find your active profile. And if they still have their profile up, you know you’d be suspicious of your long term success too.

Focus on what you have now. If it doesn’t work out, at least you know your profile is effective – and you can always put it back and put yourself back out

Dating Essentials Personal Profiles, Relationship

When you go to Las Vegas, you don’t just put all of your money into one slot machine and hope for the best, do you?

(Okay, if you do, this might be why you’re not winning at all.)

The same logic needs to apply to your online dating adventures. You need to start looking for ways to boost your odds of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right. And you can do this by signing up with more dating websites.

Sure, you might think this is an expensive way to find love, but with numerous free sites available, you don’t have to spend on all of the dating websites. You can sign up on several sites at a time, exposing the same profile to as many potential interests as possible. In doing so, you will up your chances of love, and that is a pretty sound investment.

It will be helpful too if you post the same (or basically the same) profile on each site. This way, you can keep your facts straight as to what people should know about you when they get to your profile. It will also help if you use the same pictures so if others are on the same sites as you are, they aren’t going to contact you 15 times.

Being lucky in love always involves a roll of the dice, but if you want to make sure you get the right numbers, you need to play smart.

Dating Essentials Love, Personal Profiles, Truth, Winning