You have a strategy for everything in your life – moving, your job, your schedule, etc. But when it comes to dating, we seem to think that having a strategy somehow takes the ‘fun’ out of it. However, if you’re spending more nights alone than you might like, maybe it’s time to stop hoping for love and to start scoping for love.

Using a strategy.

While different strategies have worked for different people, there are many that have been used time and time again with success. Online dating is a complicated process, but here’s what you need to do to get started. We’ll cover some other techniques next week too.

Be specific – When you’re trying to find a dating site, try to find one that caters to your specific likes (and dislikes). This isn’t about finding a person to date; this search should be about finding THE person who you want to spend time with.

Positivity matters – Focus on what you want, as opposed to what you don’t want. You want prospective people you date to think you’re a happy and outgoing person who looks for the good in everything… unless you’re on a dating site that wants you to be negative.

Showcase your talents and hobbies – Don’t be afraid to talk about what you can do. This is something that will set you apart from the rest of the crowd.

Need more? Stay tuned.

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While other dating websites focus on getting you to meet Mr. or Miss Right, what do you do if you’ve already found them? You need a strategy for making sure that you’re giving your relationship the best chance it can have.

• Do unto others – While this phrase might seem cliched by now, you really need to remember that the things you like are also probably the things that your new partner likes. For example, if you like doors held open for you or a date that shows up on time, why not provide them with the same behavior?
• Remember the date – Things like birthdays anniversaries, and holidays become special times to celebrate with someone else. Try to use these specials days to your relationship advantage. Buy small gifts or write a meaningful card – every little bit helps.
• Make them smile – While life isn’t always happy and exciting, making sure to keep the humor in your relationship will do more than you think is possible. Try to keep some problems or complaints to yourself so that you can focus on the positives in the world as well as your relationship.
• Get away from each other – You don’t have to spend every waking hour together and it’s generally good advice not to. Try to have your own separate interests outside of your relationship in order to keep things exciting.

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There’s a difference between attracting men and attracting the right kind of men. Even when you’re online, there are plenty of things that you can do to make sure that Mr. Right looks your way.

• Be yourself – There’s nothing more important than being yourself with a guy. When you start to act like someone else to impress a guy, you will attract guys that are attracted to your ‘fake’ self. But you can’t keep up the charade forever, and you’ll both realize that you really weren’t a good match in the first place.
• Be happy – There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who is smiling or who is optimistic. When you’re satisfied with your life and you’re having a good time, men can tell. They want to be a part of that good time too. There’s no need to be serious unless that’s the way that you are.
• Be friendly – While you might not want to attract a certain guy, there’s no reason to be mean with him. This is especially true when you’re in the bar scene. Do you really think that that next guy that you want to talk to is going to be interested in someone that just was rude to another man that she doesn’t even know? When in doubt, politeness wins.
• Play up your assets – No, not those. When you’re out on the dating scene, try to draw attention to the parts of yourself that you like. Like your neck? Try a scoop neck shirt and a nice necklace. Like your face? Try on some attractive makeup. When you draw attention to your strong features, you will attract a man to your confident nature.
• Leave something to the imagination – While you might want to dress provocatively, that isn’t always the best course of action. Most men actually enjoy a woman who doesn’t reveal all in the first few minutes of talking. Try wearing something that is flattering, but that doesn’t reveal too much flesh. There’s always another time to do that.

The best advice is to be confident that you are someone that is worth a second look – because you are!

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