If you’re new to the dating scene after being in a relationship, you might be worried about coming on too strong – and that’s good.

By taking the time to realize that it’s not just about you – it shows that you’re ready to begin dating again.

But what do you do?

If there was a commandments of dating, everyone would be in a healthy and happy relationships, but there just aren’t. Until now, that is.

Without any burning tree, here are some dating commandments that you should keep in mind:

• Start slowly, get to know each other as friends first
• Be clear about who you are
• Be clear about what you want
• Ask about the other’s needs
• Talk about what you didn’t like in previous relationships
• Treat each other with respect

It’s always best to proceed slower than you think is necessary – physically and emotionally. This allows you to maintain each other’s space until someone decides that they have to say something.

And then you can move onto the next level.

Easy enough, right?

What about getting, ahem, physically close? This is a little touchier. Studies show that more than a third of new daters are willing to swing around the bases within the first few dates, but you might want to realize that it isn’t necessary.

In fact, sometimes waiting is the best love potion.

If you do think that you’re ready, talk with your partner first, get protected, and have fun. If you’re happy and healthy, that’s really all that matters.

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If only dating was as easy as going to the grocery store.

You make a list, you bring it with you, and you find the exact person that you’re going to fall in love with – and that’s all the work you have to do.

 But it isn’t that easy – or is it?

Online dating has certainly helped men and women have a better say in what they want and don’t want in a partner – they simply show their preferences, block out the people that creep them out, and ‘interview’ their potential love matches before they even meet.

Finally, a computer can do some good.

But you really have to know what you want from a partner.  And that means taking the time to really ask yourself what’s important.  Are you interested in the long term?   Short term?   Looking for someone to marry or someone to just get to know better?

The saying, “Be careful what you wish for” should be about dating.

 Take some time to really sit down and think about what you want for your self and for your happiness.  Becase in the end, it’s not about that knight in shining armor; it’s about finding someone that leaves a smile on your face – even if they’re on the computer screen.

Today is the day when you start getting specific about what you want from another person – think about your hobbies and your likes (and dislikes).  What do you want to share with someone else?   In the end, it’s all about sharing yourself with someone, becoming a part of their life – so if you just don’t click, you just don’t click.

While online dating can help you meet people with the same interests, you have to know what your interests truly are and what is absolutely important to you.

And what makes you smile.

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