There are a million clichés about stupid dating mistakes. But, you know how clichés come about, right? Because they happen so often. So, it’s a good idea every now and again to check yourself and make sure you’re not making any of these worst dating mistakes.

• Talking badly about your ex – No matter how bad he or she was, you have nothing to gain and a lot to lose by talking negatively about them. Actually, just don’t talk about them at all at first – good or bad. It just makes you look like you have a lot of baggage.
• Calling your new partner over and over again – Take it slow in the beginning – don’t overwhelm your new attraction with attention. You’re likely to look more like a stalker than a good match.
• Not calling your new partner if you said you would – If you don’t plan to call; don’t say you will. If you say you will call, do it – even if it’s to say that you’re not interested.
• Lying – Don’t lie about yourself. If the relationship continues, you’ll get caught. Then, you’re likely to have long term trust issues.
• Interrogation – Slow down already with the questions about how many kids he wants, ok? You can scare off a very nice potential partner by asking too many personal questions too fast.

Rejection Mistakes, Rejection, Self Confidence

When we meet someone we really like, the focus is often on getting a first date. Once you go on that date, the relationship either goes further or it usually ends pretty abruptly. So, how do you handle a first date in order to make it more likely you’ll get a second? Here are seven things you should do if you’re really interested in getting that second date.

• Plan something to do – A first date activity makes both of you feel comfortable and gives you an automatic topic of conversation. Skip the cocktails idea for something more engaging.
• Don’t expect too much – This date should be about getting to know each other and nothing more.
• Be yourself – Don’t try to impress your date. Just look for common ground and enjoy yourself.
• Keep it short – It’s much better to have a short first date that leaves both of you more interested, than to have such a long evening that you run out of things to say.
• If you’re interested, let them know – If you had a good time and would like to see them again, say so. Just don’t be a clingon.
• Nothing more than a kiss. No matter how much fun you both had, anything more physical than a kiss risks putting the other person off.
• Ask them out. Don’t assume that the other person will take the lead. If you want to go out again, and you’re pretty sure the other person had a good time, too, it’s ok to ask at the end of the date. Or, call in a day or two.

Getting a second date should only be your goal, of course, if you really see a connection that at least leads you to believe that you’d have fun again. But, if you see that connection; don’t hesitate.

Dating Essentials First Dates, Relationships, Self Confidence

Dating is supposed to be fun, right? Yet, so many of us are crippled with fear at the idea of approaching the opposite sex. It comes from a lack of confidence. We fear rejection and worry about what other people think about our looks and our personality. You see, many of us tend to focus on our flaws when it comes to connecting with the opposite sex.

We all have friends who approach the bar scene or any other potential meeting place with comfort and ease. And, we envy them. The difference between us and them is simply the fact that they see what they have to offer, while we see all the things we perceive as being “wrong” with us.

But, there’s hope for all of us who approach meeting a potential date with trepidation. Here are some ways to build your confidence. You’ll likely find that better confidence helps you in many areas of your life.

• Make a list of the things you like about yourself. Are you funny? Intelligent? Well-educated? Successful? Refer to your list before every outing that includes possibly approaching a member of the opposite sex. It will help you remember what you have to offer.
• Go out with friends who are good at meeting members of the opposite sex. Take advantage of your friends who seem to naturally attract members of the opposite sex. They can help you to get into a group setting, with several people to talk to. You may find that you do better once the initial ice is broken.
• Talk to people without an agenda. If you talk to someone with no expectations, then you’re not disappointed if no connection happens. The bonus is that your skills improve.
• Try meeting people online. Online dating is one of the most popular ways to meet members of the opposite sex. And, it’s great for someone who’s a little shy about striking up a conversation. Many people find it much easier to flirt and talk via email or online chat.

Self Confidence Friends, Rejection, Self Confidence