One of the things I hear from singles all the time is how hard it is to decide when and how to turn a dating relationship from casual to exclusive. How do you know it’s the right time to bring up the subject? What happens if the other person doesn’t want what you want? And how devastating is it when your mutual expectations don’t match up and the relationship comes to an end?

There’s no right or wrong answer to any of these questions, but it they all get to the heart of an issue that sooner or later every single person who is dating someone else must address: should you date each other exclusively or continue to play the field? Go for exclusivity too soon and you’re likely to scare the other person off (guys, you all know this applies mostly to you!), but continue playing the field for too long and the exact same thing is likely to happen.

The best approach is not to stress over it or worry about it. It’s far better to just let things progress naturally rather than try to “force” the issue when the time isn’t right. There’s something called the Law of Attraction that states “what you pay attention to grows stronger”. This is absolutely true when it comes to worrying about exclusivity vs. playing the field; the more you worry about it, the stronger that worry becomes, and the stronger that worry becomes the more you worry about it. The cycle just goes on and on and on, pretty soon making both of you miserable and unhappy.

In most cases, it’s best to just let go of those thoughts and focus instead on simply enjoying the time you spend with that other person (or persons). Over time, if the relationship continues to grow and strengthen the question of whether to date each other exclusively or continue dating other people will very likely resolve itself quite naturally and easily!

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Aahhh, summer time. There’s nothing else quite like it. The days are warm, the evenings are long, and it’s a time of year when many singles find themselves desperately wanting to find a great partner. After all, with all of those great summer activities to choose from, who wants to be without a special someone to share it all with?

Summer is a great time to meet new people, especially via online dating sites. Why? Because there is so much to do and so many choices for activities it’s relatively easy to set up all kinds of dating activities. Some of the most common include walking, hiking, riding bikes, outdoor events, an evening drink on the patio of a favorite café, and much more.

As much fun as it is to date during the summer time, it’s also a time of year when it’s easy to fall into the trap of getting too serious too soon. There’s more temptation around since people tend to dress in more revealing clothes, and because of the summer emphasis on leisure time it’s easy to be lulled into a perspective that’s not based on the reality of everyday life.

The best approach is to enjoy each date to its fullest, taking the time to get to know the other person as in depth as possible. However, be aware of the risks that come with getting too serious too soon. Enjoy the summer, enjoy each other, and if you think the relationship is promising then continue it into fall and winter to see just how far it might take you.

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