It’s no secret that many women are attracted to confident men. Just ask any woman what she finds attractive in a man, and chances are that confidence and self assurance will be high on her list. Very few women are attracted to men lacking confidence or with low self esteem. Being shy or introverted can be a real handicap when it comes to approaching women. So why is this so? Why is confidence so important to women? In these days of equality, you’d think that this would have less significance. After all, men aren’t so fussy. Well, the modern world may have changed, but when it comes to finding a partner, our desires are pretty much the same as they were centuries ago.

To a woman, a man’s confidence is one indication of his status. He can speak his mind knowing that others will listen. Men who have high self-esteem often have the respect of others. A confident man makes a women feel attractive and sexy, while men who are too submissive or lack the confidence to speak their mind will sadly have a hard time getting noticed.

Confidence is about how you feel about yourself. A lack of confidence can nearly always be traced to feelings of self-doubt and low self esteem. You may be a “nice guy”, but if you’re failing at the first hurdle when approaching women, it could very well be down to your lack of confidence. People who appear the most confident are not necessarily better, more intelligent, or more attractive than those who lack confidence. People that appear outwardly confident may have insecurities and fears just like the rest of us. However the difference is that they believe in themselves.

Given that this can be make-or-break for many women, it’s worth putting in a little effort to help improve low self esteem. Anyone can be more confident with a little effort and a little practice. There’s some excellent advice online, for instance the website Self-Confidence.co.uk has many self help articles and confidence boosters, and there’s even an online course that you can take. Read more on how to improve confidence.

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Does what you do with you body really say something about how you feel?

Dating coaches say yes.

The way you and your partner move reveals how you’re feeling about your relationship at a deeper level. See Reading Body Language in Depth, for some general ideas about the subject.

To test this out, I went to my local pub last night to do some people-watching.

The first couple I noticed was a man and a woman sitting at the bar. Seated side-by-side, they gave the impression of being quite into each other. They weren’t rigid, but openly turned face-to-face. Many of their gestures crossed into the ‘personal space’ of the other…getting close, but never quite touching. Maybe they were on a date! They smiled and laughed. And you could just tell they wanted to be close to one another.

Another couple, seated at a table next to me, also appeared to be very much in sync. They did some ‘mirroring’….(psychological theories suggest ‘mirroring’ another’s body language strengthens relations with them)….but it didn’t seem like something they did on purpose.

She would lean in…..then he would lean in.
She would put her arm back…..then he would put his arm back.
He would touch his hair…..then she would play with her hair.
And on, and on.

Though they weren’t sitting as close to each other as the people at the bar (these two were across from each other), they intently looked one another in the eyes while speaking. They smiled and laughed in a relaxed manner. And their ease with each other made it seem as if they had been together for a long time.

Outside a few people walked by. But the only couple I saw didn’t look too happy. A man with a frown was walking just ahead of his female companion, who hurried to keep up with him – her head to the ground! While they may or may not have been a romantic couple, their body language (i.e. head down & frown) indicated that they were not terribly close to one another (as friends or anything else for that matter!) at that particular moment.

Checking out body language is a fun experiment anyone can try.

Next time you go out, look around you. See what kind of signals people actually give off.

A lot can be learned just by looking…

And this can certainly help in your own relationship!

Do you want to know…

Are they mad, but just not telling you???

…rather than ask them, watch them!

You might be surprised at just what their body is telling you.

Wishing you luck in love…
Veronika Cardes

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When it comes to dating, you need to look around for the right person. In fact, you might have certain ideas in your head as to just who the ‘perfect’ person is. And there used to be a time when people limited themselves by only dating from the same race. But times they are a changing. According to recent online dating website surveys, it turns out that more Americans than ever are dating across racial and religious lines.

Why is this?

While it might not seem like it, the U.S. population is shrinking in terms of the dating pool – meaning that there are fewer people for everyone to choose from when it comes to dating. And with those diminished numbers, people are realizing that they might be hurting their chances of finding love by limiting the race of those that they date.

Another reason? It seems that the younger generations are more prone to experimenting when they date (not like that). They want to try new things when they’re young to see what all the fuss is about or maybe to defy some parental figure that’s criticized their behavior.

Dating services have not been slow to take up on this trend, for example White Women, Black Men, Interracial Cupid and Interracial Match offer dating and support forums for interracial relationships.

But hopefully that’s not the only reason to date!

America is becoming the melting pot that many believed it could be, and no other place showcases this trend more than online dating. Because you’re able to reach so many more people, why not increase your chances exponentially of finding something with similar tastes by focusing on the person and not just their race?

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