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I am 27 year old, i am in sexless marriage, i want good sex.

@Q Hi Q, yes I couldn't agree with you more, regarding your July 27th comments. See my last comments. I'm slightly younger than you but the woman I met, while working here in Hawaii, is your age. Many women have commented to me on AM that they are impressed at how confident I am with what I want and how I've so openly described myself, including public pics. And the private pics... ummm... those have gotten extremely positive reviews. :)

But the bottom line IS to take the time to sell yourself, while being 100% HONEST. I gloss over female profiles that don't have a pic (and a face pic is not necessary, y'know the whole discreet thing) or just check the blocks. I love the thrill of chasing and catching a woman, but I at least need to know we're playing in the same ballpark; i.e., have some of the same likes & dislikes.

But aside from the "chase" there are so many sex-starved married women on AM that don't want Brad Pitt. They are somewhere in the average looking range and want insanely uninhibited sex with average looking men. They don't want to leave their husbands nor to have some clingy guy falling in love with them. So WAKE UP guys! Start communicating more and selling yourselves. The site works and I have fun there. Go after them and remember - the gorgeous women only get you into trouble and fights... ;)

And again, great comments Q!

@imaginative.. I have had pretty good success on AM. I've only been on since the summer but I've met a great woman and stopped looking, even though I still have credits. I'm married and she's in a long-distance relationship. Since I work far from home, well, nuff said. There are some young, immature, single women on AM that are looking for the perfect "Hollyweird movie" husband, but that's their problem for joining the wrong site.

But other than those annoying princesses contacting me and whining about "are there any good men left," the site works. AM doesn't hook you up with people, they just provide a safe forum for getting to know someone without an awkward first meeting. I personally think it's a great way to avoid wasting countless, precious evenings on liars who are looking for a free meal. There are psychos and stalkers of both genders, so it also weeds them out. And yes, I said "both genders" because God only made two of them, liberals and unethical surgeons made all the rest. That's another good thing about AM, over other dating sites, the only gender selections when creating an account are man or woman.

But anyway, I advise anyone who is looking for extramarital sex with a like-minded individual to join. The keys to success are to post plenty of tasteful, yet somewhat revealing, everyday-type pics. Also, keep the OMFG freaky pics (yes, everyone should have some) posted in your private showcase that only you can give access to. Be brutally honest, and lengthy, in your profile comments. Talk about what you like & want, don't just check AM's stupid blocks. For example, I said that I am turned on by women who have a great personality, positive attitude in life, can speak intelligently about current events, have a flat stomach, are uninhibited in bed, and keep their intimate areas clean shaven. I made it clear that I don't want a supermodel princess or a woman that needs to spend everyday in the gym, or a salad nibbler. Looks don't matter.

But on a side note to the ladies out there (especially the neurotic, manipulative, American women), just get over yourselves and have some fun, before the combination of gravity & mirrors puts you on a prescription of anti-depressants and white wine. And for crying out loud, turn off the reality TV shows and get some exercise. American men cannot stand a lump that is addicted to the Kardashians & Jersey Shore, yet has no time to keep her belly flat!!

@Luci Luci, please stop judging people and grow up. You personify the typical, nut-crushing, American woman. Your comment regarding not being married if it's okay to cheat is comical. That's because you American women use sex and the means of landing your husband and then you turn it into a control tool for manipulating your husband. You're scared to death that if your husband ever got tired of his every-three-month handjob, his twice-a-decade blowjob, or his four-times-a-year intercourse (which probably entails you putting a towel on the bed and flopping on it on your back & waiting for him to do all the work with no encouragement or participation from you), then he'd realize he doesn't need you anymore. If you typical American women could ever realize that American men are the most giving, caring, willing to please you in bed people in the world, then you'd have happier marriages. Instead, you teach your daughters to start planning their weddings at six years old, believing in "the perfect man" from a Disney fairytale, knowing they're going to be as miserable as you one day. In reality, your little girls are going to follow your failed marriage model, which is teasing and manipulating men until you see the first signs of crows feet in the mirror, then finally picking out the best stud in the stable to geld. After "your ring" is in place, you plan to change the things you don't like about him and chase away all of his true friends (you are not that friend) through sexual manipulation.

But Luci, sleep uneasily tonight in the knowledge there are tens of thousands of Thai, Filipina, Russian, Japanese, Chinese, and other Eastern European women who would be supermodels in the US, willing (and trying) to sleep with your husband at every turn. So the internet, coffee shops, airports, and tons of other places are where these foreign angels are looking for your husband. And the truth is, us American men tell you ball-busting harpies that we're not attracted to foreign women, especially Asian women, because we don't want to hear your mouths any more than we have to. The truth is that EVERY American man has a true softspot for Asian women. It's only a matter of time...

I am a 47 year old Female. I have been off & on AM since Spring 2010 and have met several men for coffee/lunch. Two have progressed to a great FWB situation. I will say that there are many desperate men on there. And many don't take the time to be attractive to the women. Their profiles tell us nothing about what they are looking for - only check the given boxes. Many men have old or unattractive pictures. Take some time...

@ramon Interesting idea, but I don't think it says much about the male to female ratio on AM. How often do you (being a man) go into a bar and get approached by women soliciting you for sex, to chat, offering you drinks or whatever? Unless you are lucky enough to look like a Hollywood star, I'd guess the answer is not very often. The plain truth is that most females on the site (unless they are totally desperate) will sit back and let men do the chasing. So your "fake" female profile getting loads of messages, and your "fake" man getting just one doesn't surprise me in the least. Women on this site and others who I have met have told me they never make the first approach for the reason above... it just smacks of being too desperate. It's just the same as real life. I've just read the review above by Maria from Australia, and I would expect she is doing the same as many of the women on there. I'm 39, have met 3 ladies on the site and I have made the first approach with all of them. I've had a few approaching me but most of them seemed like "professional" girls on the job - could be wrong here!

Are there more men than women on Ashley Madison? Yes, probably. But I would say that just highlights the reality that men are more sexually promiscuous than are women. By the way, isn't creating fake profiles illegal?

@Louise Yes, I know exactly how you feel. Life's too short and both of ended up with sexduds. What gives??? ~Maxx

Do you have any people in Peru? I think i need your service, but i live in Peru, I have fluent English, in fact i grew up in US, but live in Peru now.

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@Marina This is the most spot on comment I have ever read. If someone's spouse no longer wants sex the other party has no choice but to look elsewhere. Divorce is too messy and expensive, especially when sex is the only issue. The party who stops having sex has turned the marriage into a strictly friendship relationship. If there is any blame for an affair it falls entirely on that person. An affair only makes sense. Every instance of an affair outside a relationship must be judged on a case by case basis. There are no bright lines. My wife likes to initiate sex once a month to once every 2 to 3 months. I would like to have sex daily but would settle for twice a week. I am not going to force her to change. I am not going to put pressure on her to have sex. I tried talking to her about it on multiple occasions. Sometimes that led to an increase in frequency of sex but it would not last long. It always slipped back to a lack of sex. I tried proposing a schedule. I tried spontaneity. I don't even get angry about it anymore. Yes there is work and kids. But there are opportunities. They go missed 90-95% of the time. She is in therapy. To the best of my knowledge this is not addressed. If it is, nothing has changed in a year a therapy. No techniques are tried. There is no discussion initiated by her on the subject.

The one time I went with her to therapy we talked about me helping around the house more. Also I keep myself in great shape. I have Latin features. Here is what I have noticed the most. That when I pulled away sexually which was only very recently that her interest picked up a bit. But like every other solution I tried it has descended back into the old pattern. She just does not care enough about it to work on it or change it. But it is the only major problem in the relationship. We parent well together. We even play sports together when we can. We get along. There is no reason for a divorce. What there is a need for is for me to have sex with a human being on a semi-regular basis. I am under no illusions; my wife is never going to be that person. We need to stop putting sex on a pedestal. Some say, "all you guys think about is sex." It is wrong to focus one entire life on sex. It is also wrong to say that sex is the "end all be all" in a relationship. There is friendship, companionship, and parenting. All of those are more important than sex. So don't judge every person who strays.

You are really good. i need to get to this site. Need help.

Going to try it. some friend told me about it. looking for romance and someone to have fun with.

i like playing tennis and doing sport. im 42 years old 183 high 90 kg medium built married but like to meet someone and have fun. im from north west sydney.

BTW - IT'S NOT FAIR - When a wife (or husband for that matter) decides that they are not interested in sex. How selfish of the spouse who withholds their physical affections, I believe it is also abusive. It is a way to dominate and control the spouse. And when the spouse finds out that their VICTIM has sought release elsewhere they freak out!

A friend of mine cheated on his wife after many months of celibacy, they would go for 4-5 months with no intimacy, she said "NO" dozens and dozens of times. When the wife realised that her husband was no longer begging her for the sex she repeatedly DENIED him because she was suspicious. When she discovered that he had a lover who he was sleeping with she went ballistic. WHY?! SHE did not want to have sex with him, SHE decided that SHE did not like sex.......how UNFAIR of her to try to force that celibate lifestyle on her husband!

My friend loves his wife and would never leave her. But he will not force sex on her and he will not be forced to live a celibate lifestyle, he's only 42 for crying out loud!

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Ashley Madison worked for me! Of course I think it is easier for us women to get what we want. I am an attractive 46 yr old married housewife who wanted a lover to play with. I joined a few months ago and was overwhelmed by the contacts I received, about 100 a day. Weeding through them was a bit tough, players, single guys, studs offering their services, penis photos, etc. I emailed quite a few and met three men in person. I found exactly what I wanted in a married 53 yr old businessman. He is kind and gentle, intelligent and playful. Both of us were looking for a single long term affair and after a month for me and about 6 months for him, we found what we were looking for on Ashley Madison. Good luck to those who are trying, I know it's hard!

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I've experienced wonderful success with this site. Women who know what they want, and know how to get it. Many looking for a sugar daddy or gold digging, but willing to deliver the goods in exchange. Quite exciting, the thrill of a newly introduced lady squeezing you in just the right place within moments of meeting.

Just came across this website and got interested. i would like to become a member.

I'm married, over 30 years, great marriage and wife. No children, and my world is just fantastic. I've also been on AM for about two years now and cannot say enough positive things about the site. As long as you truly know yourself, your limits, what you want and need, and how to control your existence, then this is a truly 'classy' and mature site. My big piece of advice to anyone considering this site: don't communicate or meet anyone if they don't come across as mature, emotionally grounded, and sane. If your gut tells you something's wrong, then listen to it. Met a couple of great women, became sexually involved with one--a terrific interracial experience!--and am in heavy flirtation with another great woman. Beats the hell out of following football teams!

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