Member Comments on BlackPeopleMeet.com

Yes its racist very racist! If we had a site for whites only you all would cry and say we were being racist. That's bull@Passer Byer

When I read some of the comments on here it is funny to me. The complaints women have about men I can say women do the same things. Women complain about men sending flirts? I can't tell you how many flirts I've gotten from women!

One time I even got a flirt from a woman who's profile said on it ("Don't send me any flirts!") LOL

Women say men lie about their real appearance or post old photos. OMG, you won't believe how often that happens to us guys too! Women say the men lie too much. WOW, are you kidding me? I have been lied to on a few occasions. I even went on a date with a woman whose profile said she had "zero" kids and turns out she really had FOUR! And of course we love the women who say they are a "few extra lbs", when they are like 80-100 lbs overweight. Women say the men don't have jobs? I can say the exact same thing about some of the women I have talked to on BPM. Trust me the recession didn't just affect men! There are plenty of women whom have gotten laid off too. So ladies, before you get so down on the guys, you all need to realize it's no picnic on our side of the fence either.

It's funny and crazy at the same time. I really don't understand how people think. I see comments like "you don't live in the same area or state that I live in" all the time. The reality of this is it's a site of people from all over that's why it's called BPM. We never open our minds to what could happen if you did meet someone who lived in another state. It's just like how we ask God for something and you put those restrictions on what we ask for you cannot put limitation on God. Your blessing is right there in front of you and you deny it. Let's look at it this way you live in NY what if you don't meet anyone from NY on that site who meets what you are looking for? What if there is not a man in NY that you are looking for period? What do you do? Then a brother from another state meets your qualification all but he's in another state. We have to open our minds and stop doing how we think and do what you feel.

I appreciated Logi's story (post from April 10, 2011). Men often leave the fact that they are married out of the conversation, and that's really sad. However, I can't understand why she would believe that a man she met on the internet with a name like Issac Hayes was serious unless that bad mothafu(shut yo mouth) showed some ID.

@Passer Byer First of all, you need to change the words 'black girls and black guys' to African American men and women. When reviewing articles about white dating sites you don't see the words "white girls and white guys" now do you ?

@DUSTIN WALTERS
Re: What Is Racism?

Racism describes societal patterns that impose oppressive or otherwise negative conditions against identifiable groups on the basis of race or ethnicity.

BPM is not racist just because of its name. Racism is when one race deems itself to be superior in comparison to other races and uses its power to oppress other races of people. Are black people oppressing your race of people? Don't hate because blacks log on to a website to meet and greet. BPM is owned by whites. Stop hating and learn what institutionalized racism really is.

@DUSTIN WALTERS From Silvia, Black People Meet is not racist. If you wish to meet a Black women/man just go on the site and look at all the beautiful black women/men you can meet. Just because it has the title "Black People" doesn't mean others can't use the service. Mexican stores have Mexican names, Jewish stores have Jewish names, etc. This entity just chose to call the site Black People.

How is this site not racist??? What if I started a site for only Mexicans? Whites? Am I not allowed to date a black woman? Give me break. I sell real estate in Arizona and what if I only sell to one race? I'm happy to discuss this with anyone.

I really liked black people meet… and I'm embarrassed about my story, but here goes. When I first registered to the website, I loved it. Black people meeting and greeting, I enjoyed all the emails. I eliminated some of my admirers and remained in contact with two males. The male that I really connected with, lived in my area. He marked his status as "single and looking for a serious relationship". So I was excited to meet him. We met and went on a nice date to a movie. Things progressed within the month as we continued to see each other. One day I received an email from his wife threatening me to leave him alone, so I did. Months passed and just as summer came around, I noticed this man driving past my house several times as I was leaving out. He called me and said he was no longer with his wife, but I told him the only way we could go out again is if he could prove his marital status.

I did a Google search on this guy and found an article or transcript from dateline MSN... a transcript from the Count Down with Keith Olbermann Show. It appears that several women complained about this man on DontDateHimGirl.com. In the transcript Keith Olbermann is interviewing the owner of DontDateHimGirl.com. In the interview, she explains that several women have complained about this particular man.. His name is Isaac Hayes and he goes by other names like Josias West. He pretends to be Jamaican/Rastafarian. I just feel the site attracts married men, and it's shocking to know these men are willing to pay monthly fees just to play around with women. I'm sure there are good men on the site, but the bad ones need to be gutted out. I haven't been back to Black People Meet in 4 years.

Don't bother. A big waste of time. Nothing but a bunch of broke unemployed brothers trying to mooch off women because their mother never taught them better. Save your money. USCGRAD1989, search him and don't bother. The biggest liar of them all!

BMP is a bad example for the real men in general. I've been on the site on and off for two years, and have met liars, married men, cheaters, etc. These men are looking for dummies, and a free ride. I work every day, and don't depend on a man, nor have kids..not trying to be mean, or think I am better than these other ladies, however; we all need to wake up, and stop choosing low life men.

I really wish you the best. All I met were lo-life scrubs.

I totally agree. I ran into the same thing. I feel they should do a background check. Then we will see how many loser, cheaters, and liars sign up them..lol

You go girl.. Don't give up the panties and they will respect you as well. Watch whom you invite to your home as well.

I hope things work out..BE careful. What you did was smart. I did the same thing. A lot of these men our jobless, broke wanna be players and liars.

@Misty

You are right, about your statement about the photo and weight however; men do the same thing. You may have serious mental issues as well. Possibly a player.

Hmmmm... it's weird how none of you ladies mentioned all the woman on BPM with serious mental issues, or the "SISTA'S" who put up pictures from 20 years ago, you go to meet them and you don't recognize them because they are 75 pounds heavier than their picture shows and don't forget the 5' 2" 350 pound woman who says her body type is "A few extra pounds" ROTFLMAO! child please!!! ya'll need to stop it I will agree the site is not good. LOL!

I used a three tier system to weed out losers...I first paid attention to how they communicated...could they spell...could they put together a sentence...did they focus on the physical....then I spoke to them on the phone...were they forthcoming about themselves....did what they said match their profile...did they answer questions directly or try to avoid them...then we would meet in person....haven't had a bad experience yet...I met my man on this site...we are very happy together.

Black People Meet is not so bad. It depends on the men you meet. I have met a lot of Gentlemen on this site, I think it all depends on you and how detailed you are about what type of man you are interested in. I met a nice man on this site, he wanted to marry me, but I am not ready. I met another gentleman he is still in my life. I met some beautiful foreign men on this site. Fantastic. Ladies you have to take your time. Don't sleep with these men, make them date you and treat you like a lady. Take turns taking each other out, that helps things. It makes the man feel like he is being treated special too. It's not all about the ladies; it's about the men too.

There are a lot of losers on this site. Just here playing games. You get a lot of responses but no quality. These guys don't have jobs they are losers. They are married and looking to cheat in their wives. A lot of them are looking for a woman to take care of them. They say in their profiles that they are working and is established but when you actually talk to them they have just conveniently lost their job, living with their mommy, or have baby momma drama. These guys are a waste of your time ladies. Be smart and don't waste your time.. I have been on and off this site for about a year. I took a break from it thinking maybe it was me but it isn't me at all. I am a widow and these guys think you will accept anything just for the sake of having someone. They are sadly mistaken, These men on here have no standards or morals. This site is truly a waste of time ladies. Don't lower your standards for these creeps...