Member Comments on BlackPeopleMeet.com

I have been on this site for over a year and have never had a date. I do not get anymore flirts or anything. I will not be returning. The men on here play too many games. They send me flirt and when I send one back there is no reply. This site is horrible. It is not worth the money.

When I read some of the comments on here it is funny to me. The complaints women have about men I can say women do the same things. Women complain about men sending flirts? I can't tell you how many flirts I've gotten from women!

One time I even got a flirt from a woman who's profile said on it ("Don't send me any flirts!") LOL

Women say men lie about their real appearance or post old photos. OMG, you won't believe how often that happens to us guys too! Women say the men lie too much. WOW, are you kidding me? I have been lied to on a few occasions. I even went on a date with a woman whose profile said she had "zero" kids and turns out she really had FOUR! And of course we love the women who say they are a "few extra lbs", when they are like 80-100 lbs overweight. Women say the men don't have jobs? I can say the exact same thing about some of the women I have talked to on BPM. Trust me the recession didn't just affect men! There are plenty of women whom have gotten laid off too. So ladies, before you get so down on the guys, you all need to realize it's no picnic on our side of the fence either.

I really liked black people meet… and I'm embarrassed about my story, but here goes. When I first registered to the website, I loved it. Black people meeting and greeting, I enjoyed all the emails. I eliminated some of my admirers and remained in contact with two males. The male that I really connected with, lived in my area. He marked his status as "single and looking for a serious relationship". So I was excited to meet him. We met and went on a nice date to a movie. Things progressed within the month as we continued to see each other. One day I received an email from his wife threatening me to leave him alone, so I did. Months passed and just as summer came around, I noticed this man driving past my house several times as I was leaving out. He called me and said he was no longer with his wife, but I told him the only way we could go out again is if he could prove his marital status.

I did a Google search on this guy and found an article or transcript from dateline MSN... a transcript from the Count Down with Keith Olbermann Show. It appears that several women complained about this man on DontDateHimGirl.com. In the transcript Keith Olbermann is interviewing the owner of DontDateHimGirl.com. In the interview, she explains that several women have complained about this particular man.. His name is Isaac Hayes and he goes by other names like Josias West. He pretends to be Jamaican/Rastafarian. I just feel the site attracts married men, and it's shocking to know these men are willing to pay monthly fees just to play around with women. I'm sure there are good men on the site, but the bad ones need to be gutted out. I haven't been back to Black People Meet in 4 years.

BMP is a bad example for the real men in general. I've been on the site on and off for two years, and have met liars, married men, cheaters, etc. These men are looking for dummies, and a free ride. I work every day, and don't depend on a man, nor have kids..not trying to be mean, or think I am better than these other ladies, however; we all need to wake up, and stop choosing low life men.

I really wish you the best. All I met were lo-life scrubs.

I totally agree. I ran into the same thing. I feel they should do a background check. Then we will see how many loser, cheaters, and liars sign up them..lol

You go girl.. Don't give up the panties and they will respect you as well. Watch whom you invite to your home as well.

I hope things work out..BE careful. What you did was smart. I did the same thing. A lot of these men our jobless, broke wanna be players and liars.

@Misty

You are right, about your statement about the photo and weight however; men do the same thing. You may have serious mental issues as well. Possibly a player.

Hmmmm... it's weird how none of you ladies mentioned all the woman on BPM with serious mental issues, or the "SISTA'S" who put up pictures from 20 years ago, you go to meet them and you don't recognize them because they are 75 pounds heavier than their picture shows and don't forget the 5' 2" 350 pound woman who says her body type is "A few extra pounds" ROTFLMAO! child please!!! ya'll need to stop it I will agree the site is not good. LOL!

I have been on Blackpeoplemeet.com for a while for over a year off and on. What I do, I make sure I put in my profile that if someone is interested in communicating with me to send Personal Messages only. That way it helps to filter through that fakeness and the manipulation of the website. I also add to it by saying that if you are truly interested in me but I may not be able to read your message, Bookmark me or FAV me so I can communicate at when I can. Then during my inactive times, I let my account build up with viewers that have Personal Messaged me, then I upgrade. This is how I use this site to my advantage. Through the initial conversation I either invite them to IM me or call me depending on the vibe I get. My experience has been more successful this way. The friendships I make don't last very long due to the men just being plain sorry, or they lied about their relationship status, or it just faded out. For whatever reason, I never get a Personal Message from anyone first, I always have to make the first contact. So just imagine if this was for everyone??? No one gets Personal Messages but you have to search and initiate first. I like my experiences on Tagged.com far better than BPM or Plentyoffish or Match.com. You don't pay any money on Tagged and I still have guy friends that I talk to on the phone and who sometimes come and visit me. I am MORE satisfied there than anywhere else. BPM users use my technique and wait for the Personal Messages and see how much traffic you get or the lack there of from real people to make contact with. At the end of the day......I really do believe that ALL paid dating websites are manipulated to keep you single to make more money. I don't know how, I just feel it.