Member Comments on ChnLove.com

@Gabe M Hey Gabe. Just curious if you ever got anywhere with your Asian woman at that Fushun Match Across Marriage group? I'm in the same boat you were in when you asked your question. I assume you found her on chnlove right? Did you ever get in contact with the agency? I have never been able to get a phone number or address to the agency. Always takes you back to chnlove. Any success?

I have been communicating with a beautiful girl named Amy Yi from Fushun for six months on Chnlove. She caught my eye immediately and she is the only girl I have ever found online and the only one I have wrote to. I travelled to Fushun to meet her and she met me at the airport in Shenyang but it was not her, it was a lady who works at the YongBang agency posing as her. This woman's photo is actually on the Yongbang website. Her boyfriend Ryan who's photo is also there drove me back to Fushun to my hotel for 300RMB. I wanted to believe she had aged in the last "three years" since her photos were taken but on the second night I knew it was just a scam even though she was not bad looking, she was not Amy. I emailed Chnlove about it and they replied that they had sent an email to the agency to confirm or deny my suspicions. Thanks a lot Chnlove! They were supposed to call me at 7pm and never did. I will never try online dating again as I have pretty good success with local girls but I have to admit Chinese are my favorite, maybe one day. Amy if you really ever got my messages please get a hold of me.

Yes this site is a scam. The ladies are all beautiful with their salon pictures. All women are paid a percentage of the men they get to chat and buy credits to email. These women are just another form of prostitution just get paid less for their services. I have had them investigated and they send letters to men that are actually sent by the site not by the women you receive yourself. China is no different than the US. Companies here exploit those who are lonely and would like to find a companion. I have spent several thousand dollars here but no longer and do not have a single request to visit and have a meaningful relationship. The salon pictures never match the real life pictures because they have been photo enhanced and were made when they were much younger. You will save much money by taking a romance tour to a city in China if you are serious about finding a Chinese partner or keep throwing your money away. There is no site that every woman is beautiful....this should have told me something. Not every woman can be a model or be so beautiful and want a marriage with a man that is 20 years their senior. Be real!!! These girls are just trying to make a little extra money without commitment.

I believe this site is a scam. Talked to about ten different women. Gave them all my e-mail address and phone number. None used these methods. Two gave me theirs, sent some pics and e-mails none responded. They kept sending me the emf mail the one you have to pay for. Why would you pay when you can use the free e-mail system. The ten I talked through with the site all said on their profile they spoke real good English. When they sent me their admirer mail they also mentioned that. So you guys take it from there but in my mind it's a scam.

Wrong! You may have lucked out but the site is terrible. I live in China and have visited chnlove in HK and some of the agencies that they represent. One may get lucky, but a total scam to make money. I was told by one agency manager how it works. Just get a man to write, that is the goal. And I met some ladies from the site. 5 to be exact, one was married and the other 4 were paid by chnlove to use their pictures and some phony information. Stay away! If this company was in the USA they would be prosecuted for fraud!

I used Chnlove.com and found the women of my dreams. She is so wonderful! Every place has scam artists. But I found most women to be legit. I always tried to get a personal email address to send pictures. Some said they didn't have one, that is when it's time to move on. Although I must say Chinese don't use too much email, they used an IM system called QQQ. Keep trying you just never know. I was very lucky, one of the first girls I contacted is now my wife. Excellent website, much better than Match.com.

Have any of you gents had any contact with ladies from the Fushun Match Across Marriage Services Co. If so, what can you tell me about their legitimacy? I just started communicating with a lady there. Thanks.

I have been on and off of this site for more than 6 months with little to show for my efforts but a big Visa bill. This site has companies that contract other "match maker" and translation services who all seem to have some slightly different rules about direct contact. In my opinion many of the translations are not complete or accurate and they will often delete the email addresses sent to a lady for direct contact even if the woman can speak English. Some of them will never allow a woman to send a man her email address and so they hook you into very expensive communications. I would not be surprised to learn that some of these profiles are fake and set up for the purpose of getting a man to spend more money. Some ladies say they miss you or love you before you have even gotten to know anything about one another, which makes me suspect. Unless something changes I would not recommend this site. Your experiences may differ.

@faye Hi Faye try these web sites match.com and mate1.com. Good luck.

@john I was in China and other places and ex-military...and still been duped till I got knowledge of my first trip and Chnlove.com and Cherryblossoms.com ..... Get an email and a Yahoo messenger with web cam and you are safe....! My Friend.. there is no such thing as a Traditional Chinese lady 45-98 forget that dream ! In the New China and internet date scene Pal!

I am an online investigator and do other intelligence work around the world....if you use Chnlove.com or Cherryblossoms.com the (Chinese section)....think again.. There is no such thing as a "Chinese Traditional Woman" in the New China guys... Now I am married to a wonderful Thai woman and a god believer...... I have been to China and they have no concept of western life. You are dealing with a country of a communist state and that dabbles with capitalism... Yes, the girls are beautiful and I know there are good women there but in dating sites??? No! You're on an emotional gamble and it can either way. Go there and find your own and save the head ache...I know I have been duped there through Cherryblossoms and almost went to meet women I met in cCB but also in many sites and social sites.

Too expensive to write this kind of letter and online chatting is worse. For all the ladies online chatting is free of charge. Just hunting US dollars for this kind of service.

@george stubblefield You don't know everything, You have been lucky. I have seen problems with this site. I had 20 chats over 2 months with this one girl, she wrote me a letter saying "do you still remember me?". I just spoke with her 2 nights ago. Asked for phone number 3 times she says "she wants me and come over in usa for life with me". I asked her to go on yahoo chat, there's also live chat translation. She says she can't get on. Asked 4 others i don't do Chnlove chat no more. You want me go to yahoo here's my address. That's been 4 days so we'll see. Hate cupid system, it sucks money out of you. Trying not to do any more on this site, but love all the mail though. Chinese woman really want good men.

Hey Guys,

This is Rick1. I recently submitted a comment on October 6 titled "I HATE THE CREDIT SYSTEM". I just wanted to go further into detail about the women on the site. As I mentioned, some may be used as a studio ploy to get men to pay their money in order to hopefully start corresponding with their fairytale lady, but some are legitimate.

I forgot to mention that I did meet one lady that was very legitimate. She was not a super attractive woman, but I can say she was decent looking enough for me. Anyway, after about two letters we exchanged e-mail addresses. In her correspondence to me, she even agreed that the cost on ChnLove was expensive and she did not want to see me constantly paying for credits to talk through a translator when we could just communicate using our personal e-mail addresses. Makes sense to me and I thought very nice of her to point this out on her end. She did school me on the site and she said one thing to look out for is the level of English. If a woman says her English is FAIR, or even GOOD, they should be able to communicate with you after they feel comfortable with you; let's say after three letters through the agency if not more.

Anyway, the bottom line is that if you find a lady that likes you and she says in her profile her English is GOOD or even FAIR, there is no need to constantly send messages through the site. The woman who I met and told me this had indicated in her profile that her level of English was GOOD. She is a nurse and I did not seek her out, but it was one of the many admiration mails I received. I decided to contact her because unlike the others, she was just plain and simple unlike the others, but overall a decent woman and educated.

Although I communicated with her through our personal e-mails, I still attempted to find the lady of my choice on the site and based on my experiences, that is what made me decide to write the letter detailing my negativity about the site; but if you are lucky, maybe you will find somebody legitimate. Just give yourself a budget because based on what I have experienced, I still will say Red Flag, Scam and Rip Off for the most part.

Thank you.

I am married 9 years to a Beautiful Chinese lady and have no complaints. We met through mutual friends and I know many that have met through other agencies not Chnlove. It seems to the people I know in China it is the sub-agents that are the problem. Normal rules apply. If it is too good to be true, it is. Why would some cute 35 yr old want a 60 yr old fat male? Think about the Russian ladies scam, the Indonesian scam, and the Philippino scams. The rip-off women live everywhere. Western, Eastern, Asia, name a country and they will take your heart and money.

Any one that says this site is a fraud is a liar and a loser. My girl has visited me and we will marry if she will have me. This guy that talks bad about Chnlove has been ditched by a girl and as a result, he figures everyone is bad. Poor guy but terribly stupid. This is a legitimate site that helps lovers get together and be happy couples. They would never have found each other otherwise. Thanks to all the CHNlove people from a boy in Michigan. He might have got a bad girl, everyone is not good and chnlove cannot be responsible for that.

@faye Yes.... Do not lie and never talk to multiple online partners and you will stay out of trouble - or you maybe be here to pass off as a nice girl. But in my investigations and have been to china, you all lie and are connivers for any way or means to marry a USA or UK man.....Sorry it's the truth! Thailand women are far better and smart.., happy and they have character, truth in heart and are very traditional... Chinese say they are, but I do not think so.. Most in Liuzhou are sex workers and salon whores! Prostitution in China is very high and the factory workers have to sell that "Cat"...to feed their kids and put them in college..., I know!... that is what my ex-china girlfriend is doing I found out!

Man, the girl might be lying to you. Chnlove doesn't provide services to ladies directly, they probably don't know what the agency or ladies did to you. So, the best solution to find out the situation is to report this girl or her agency to Chnlove and ask for your credits back. Don't be conned by these little liars, don't waste your money!

Chnlove, so many beautiful and intelligent women that fall in love with you instantly just seems fishy to me.

I agree with Bob too. If the lady ain't willing to exchange email addresses or telephone numbers, move on, there will be someone who's more interested in communicating directly. You need to evaluate whether the lady is really interested in you. If she is then she will make the effort. I know that some ladies like testing men's patience to see how serious they are by writing more letters through agencies.