Member Comments on eHarmony

I was disappointed with the site in several ways. I am an attractive and fit 42 year old man, and look mid 30’s in appearance. However, I received far too many profiles of women in their early to late 40’s, where profiles of women in their 30’s would have been more appropriate. The quality of profiles of women in their 30’s that I did see was disappointing to say the least, rarely fit or attractive.

Even after the extensive questionnaire, some women would immediately close communication, even though these were supposed matches. In addition to the hoops to jump through, it can be very time consuming to actually get to one on one contact.

Eharmony you are doing great job. I hope you keep it up.

Couldn't be more disgusted with the 20 plus years older matches I was sent. Obviously, Eharmony victimizes women for matches with much older men who are the large base of their clients. This is a rip-off of the highest order.

To 25-year-old Priscilla:

The cookie will crumble. You too will be old one day. But for your own sake, I hope you focus those young eyes on the guys who are "in [your] face all the time".

Anyone who dates far younger is not looking for an equal partner - they are seeking someone to dominate. Don't believe words; watch actions and make up your own mind.

Best of Luck,
Cathy

PS - I agree that E-Harmony is not a great place.

If you're not Christian, don't bother. They will reject you.

I am in my mid 20s and I was sent no one older than 28 and no one matching close to someone I'd choose. I didn't even limit the search to my area! All unmotivated men and all far away from me! I live in New York City! The test was way off in my opinion. Everyone on there wants children and I make no apologies for wanting a career and not wanting a nanny raise my kids. I am so unhappy with eHarmony in every single aspect of it.

I wish they'd let me rate it '0' stars!

You old women had 50 years to figure it out, and if you haven't by now, maybe you should get a cat. Maybe you are crazy, fat, boring, wrinkled, or just plain out ugly. You may think that you look better than you actually do. If you are in your 40's, nobody wants you but a 60 year old man, if not 70. I am 25 and I have "40 year old" men in my face all the time.

I've had no problems with eHarmony.

I am a good-looking, fit woman of 52. I have been using eHarmony for 2 weeks. I get at least 10 matches a day, and half are good matches, but: the guys don't contact me, and if I try to contact them with an "Icebreaker" or "Questions", they block or ignore me. I have even rewritten my profile to sound more welcoming, and have good pictures. What is happening?

My limited experience with e-harmony was off-putting. I'm a hot, youthful late 40's woman, but they kept sending my profiles to "old" guys in their 60's, because they insisted it "works out better statistically." It didn't matter what I wanted; a still hot guy my age or slightly younger.

Actually, statistically, older woman/younger man pairings work well. But my guess is that the company wanted to cater to their pool of older men, who want younger women.

And the initial cyber meeting question menu we could select from to ask one another were very limited and trite. Nothing in them I would want to know about someone right off the bat.

Since then, I've heard some other negative things about the limited boxes they put people in, or reject them by.