Member Comments on eHarmony

E-Harmony was a major waste of money! I am attractive, but was about 40 lbs. overweight (I've lost weight since). I've seen heavier women who date regularly, but I'm also in my mid-50's, however I look younger. Every man that I contacted never wrote back and nobody contacted me. It is overpriced and a complete waste of time.

I guess I'm one of those few that didn't pass the test. Don't know how I didn't pass as I disclosed that I was Catholic (but not practicing) and as a part of my background check with my security job, I passed a psychological evaluation. So, I have the mental acumen (and marksmanship ability) to carry a firearm on duty, yet fail eHarmony's test. Kind of kick you below the belt as far as your self-esteem goes, but for the money they charge and the numerous complaints I've read, I'm almost glad I didn't pass.

@Boss I agree wholeheartedly with the comments by "Boss" on July 13th. It was just a waste of money, I spent time playing with the settings, and I was very limited to the amount I could view. I listed slim/slender, and all I got were overweight women. Within the week almost, I cancelled my 3 month subscription. I have been to a few dating sites, and what I've found was this, any woman who thought she was half decent in looks, and was for arguments sake 55 yrs old, she would list as wanting to meet guys between 30 to 45 yrs old. So, me being 59 yrs old, what chance did I have? Yet, many people I know, say I look 10 yrs younger than my age, I'm fit, muscular, and going by what they say, quite attractive also. Yet I have a huge problem in getting a females interest, once they see the age, interest lost... I have found that a huge number of dating sites cater for either the younger woman looking for guys around their age, or they're gold diggers, looking for money or passports or where the female is around 40 yrs old and onwards, generally she is a cougar. I get more smiles, hellos, and come-ons when I go to the local supermarket, or go out to a cafe for a coffee. To me, and many other guys in my position, dating sites are a waste of money. I will not settle for a woman, I know I won't be happy with, just for the sake of company. I would rather get myself a dog.

This site is garbage! I signed up for 3 months and i canceled it within the week! I got a whopping 300+ matches, of those I'd say maybe only25 had pictures, and 90% of those that did have pictures were all fat women. I put everything i was looking for in those 1000 questions you get asked and i get matched up with fat women. There is also no search engine, so you're stuck with who you're 'matched' up with. I complained to them directly and you know what they told me? I have to look past the looks and to their personality. Yea effin right. If there's no attraction physically in any way, nothings gonna happen. Thumbs down to this site, had a better experience on match.com.

E-Harmony had me fill out a 20 minute 5 page "Personality Review"; made me give them my email address and telephone number just to shut me down at the end because I answered "separated" to one of their questions (in the beginning!). I think its great that they screen for what they want however they have no right to take people's time and very private information for their own gain without prior notification. Absolutely ridiculous, if not illegal. Lisa.

The worst consumer experience, the worst dating experience I've ever had. Of the 95 matches they sent me 90 were not even within my geographical settings of 200 miles. Of the 5 that were within my region 2 were not even paid subscribers, one was too old, one too young and one too big. I'm contacted by a woman a six hour drive away. I give it a try. She nurtures a relationship over the phone. But when I drive to the city in which she lives I meet the old boy friend who is still in the house, couch surfing in her living room, she's completely unable to get rid of him. But Eharmony calls this abuse "service". Read their terms. They are selling nothing but an unqualified list of names. How is this doing business in good faith? It just isn't. And they come from a "faith perspective" initially!?! These people have no integrity; have no concept of what abuse really is.

I agree with the person that said, if you are not Christian don't bother. EHarmony is a Christian dating site that for some reason decides to hide that fact in their advertising. When I signed up last September I listed myself as not religious and did not receive ONE MATCH. Nothing, nada, zip. SO. . . I did an experiment. I was given the opportunity to redo my questionnaire and changed my religion to Christian to see what would happen. No joke, I had 200 matches by the next morning.

Of course, if you are a Christian (or religious in general) and are looking for others of the same beliefs, then by all means try it out. If you are not, STAY AWAY!!! Do not waste your money. I have nothing wrong with dating sites matching people based on religion, but at least be up front about it!

@Laura I joined a few weeks ago. I am very serious about finding someone. I am a professional, educated, i am told I look younger then my 50 plus age, still my matches are not even close to my age or they live in the next state ect.

Eharmony is a complete joke! A waste of good money! I am a 36 year old woman with a preference for men my age or slightly younger and they kept sending me matches of men of men 40 to 51 when my preference is 30- 41! Any younger guy id message would ignore me while these old lechers kept badgering me.

@sandra schofield Don't be so down on yourself. If you don't love yourself, why should anybody else love you? I'm 56, met a man on pof.com and he thinks I'm very hot. I am not slim, tall, and my hair is very short. Not Christine Brinkley by any means. I'm average for my age. He's 4 years younger and loves women my age, won't even date someone younger. Learn to love yourself and your own body and you might have better luck with men.

@Priscilla I feel sorry for you. You are so young and so hateful. Grow up. Someday you'll be 50.

@Alex Hi Alex, I like your frankness here. Yes, I was being prompted by eHarmony to give it a try. I am still sceptical about as to whether it is worth trying my efforts on it or not. I am 35 years old, a full time teacher and a part time model for a corporate magazine. I like to know you better. Don't ever worry, I am a genuine seeker just like you, looking for my soul mate. I hate scammers to bits!! You can reach me at my email: lindalaszdan@yahoo.com.sg. See you soon!!

Linda

I have been thinking of e-harmony for a while but after reading the comments, it is exactly what I suspected - a rip-off for men who can't find a woman, and a place for the "cougars" to find a younger man. Let's face it, life is not going to bring you what you want - Stop "shopping on line", stop drinking so much, and face the fact that you are, like I am, old and not desirable any more. Stop talking about yourself as "Hot, late fifties", etc. Nobody in their late fifties is "Hot" - get a mirror and clean it well before you look into it. Do some volunteer work and grow old gracefully - alone!!!

More than ninety (90) percent of the matches they sent me remained in the introductory stage meaning they never viewed my profile. eHarmony does not post a last log-in date, what does that tell you? After spending a considerable amount of money for their subscription one can expect a vendor ad on every page. Yes, you pay good money to view ads. eHarmony has a nominal word count and in most cases one is unable to express what you want to relay. As for the amount of matches, I received very few and what did appear, well many had fake first names or no picture posted. I signed up for a year and asked eHarmony for a prorated refund which was quickly denied. In summation, eHarmony is overpriced and over rated. After four (4) months, not one date, nothing at all. As a minimum stick with a dating site that does not promote fraud, meaning posts a last log-in date and allows you to write what you are looking for by not having a nominal word count. If you are a heterosexual male seeking a woman, one would do well avoiding this site.

I was disappointed with the site in several ways. I am an attractive and fit 42 year old man, and look mid 30's in appearance. However, I received far too many profiles of women in their early to late 40's, where profiles of women in their 30's would have been more appropriate. The quality of profiles of women in their 30's that I did see was disappointing to say the least, rarely fit or attractive.

Even after the extensive questionnaire, some women would immediately close communication, even though these were supposed matches. In addition to the hoops to jump through, it can be very time consuming to actually get to one on one contact.

Couldn't be more disgusted with the 20 plus years older matches I was sent. Obviously, Eharmony victimizes women for matches with much older men who are the large base of their clients. This is a rip-off of the highest order.

To 25-year-old Priscilla:

The cookie will crumble. You too will be old one day. But for your own sake, I hope you focus those young eyes on the guys who are "in [your] face all the time".

Anyone who dates far younger is not looking for an equal partner - they are seeking someone to dominate. Don't believe words; watch actions and make up your own mind.

Best of Luck,
Cathy

PS - I agree that E-Harmony is not a great place.

If you're not Christian, don't bother. They will reject you.

I am in my mid 20s and I was sent no one older than 28 and no one matching close to someone I'd choose. I didn't even limit the search to my area! All unmotivated men and all far away from me! I live in New York City! The test was way off in my opinion. Everyone on there wants children and I make no apologies for wanting a career and not wanting a nanny raise my kids. I am so unhappy with eHarmony in every single aspect of it.

I wish they'd let me rate it '0' stars!

My limited experience with e-harmony was off-putting. I'm a hot, youthful late 40's woman, but they kept sending my profiles to "old" guys in their 60's, because they insisted it "works out better statistically." It didn't matter what I wanted; a still hot guy my age or slightly younger.

Actually, statistically, older woman/younger man pairings work well. But my guess is that the company wanted to cater to their pool of older men, who want younger women.

And the initial cyber meeting question menu we could select from to ask one another were very limited and trite. Nothing in them I would want to know about someone right off the bat.

Since then, I've heard some other negative things about the limited boxes they put people in, or reject them by.

This site has judged me unfit to take part in the matching services it offers. I followed their test, and completed all the questions, and was told they cannot (will not) help me. The test is more like a psych exam than questions for dating. Complete waste of time.