When we think of online dating, we most likely think of sites for singles. However, the truth is that many attached and even married people are also using the internet as a way to meet new people and to develop relationships. Sometimes they are seeking only friendship, but more often than not, they are indulging in extra-marital affairs and infidelity. In some cases, they may be in open, or polyamorous relationships where dating outside the relationship isn’t considered outside the boundaries.
So, because there’s a market for it, married dating sites do exist. Though the sites may not encourage members to cheat on their partners, they do accommodate those who wish to do so, and the sites have become very successful in the process.
While these sites do garner criticism from many, they also keep things up front among those who use them. When you find a date from one of these sites, you know what you’re getting. For many people, this is much better than hiding the fact that you’re also in another serious relationship. Rather than the worry that one partner will expect more from the relationship than the other can provide, dating sites for cheaters create an honest atmosphere (at least between the two people who meet on the site).
And, though many people have criticized the sites, this criticism certainly hasn’t slowed down their success.
Ashley Madison is an adult dating website that caters to married individuals looking for discreet rendezvous. With several hundred thousand members, it is the premiere married dating site on the web, and offers those in a very unique position a venue to safely find exactly what they are looking for. In addition to a well organized format, the site offers many user friendly features such as email and chat. Members are allowed to put as little or as much information on their profile as they please. The site claims that their privacy policy is so airtight that even site moderators do not know the real names of its members.
A unique website in itself, AshleyMadison.com offers a number of options. Unlike other sites that charge a monthly or quarterly subscription, Ashley Madison allows members to control what they use when with a credit system. This means members do not have to worry about upgrading accounts in order to gain access to certain features. Those who purchase the Affair Membership Guarantee Package are promised to have an affair to remember or receive their money back. Lastly, the site offers a unique 'panic button' feature that moves a user to a movie trailer or home improvement site in case they are suddenly interrupted while browsing.
While Ashley Madison remains the most popular married dating site in the world, Illicit Encounters serves this same market in the UK. The site caters to married people looking for some sort of relationship outside their marriage. In some cases, it’s certainly sex, but in others it may simply be someone with whom to share common interests.
Illicit Encounters has been on the internet since 2003, and has about 46,000 members, with a male/female ratio of 65%-35%. The cost is £129 for a 30 day period. You can join, however, for free.
This site offers a four page questionnaire for those interested in joining. You do not provide your name or address. Within the questionnaire, you’ll provide information about your physical appearance, along with your hobbies and interests. You’ll also be able to write in free form about yourself and the type of relationship you seek.
Once you’re approved, you’ll be able to browse profiles and photos, do searches, and send winks and flirts to other members. Illicit Encounters is big on helping members maintain their privacy, so most members don’t show photos to everyone who’s browsing, but rather only allow members with whom they’ve had online contact to see their photos. They’ll also help you with other ways to stay discreet, such as throwaway email addresses and other ways to keep details private.
The site offers a good matching tool, and whenever a new member joins that matches your interests, you’ll automatically be notified.
Married But Lonely is another dating site catering to married people who want an additional relationship in their life. This site has been around since 2002 and has about 38,000 members. The cost is 47.39 per month, and the site serves the US and parts of South American and Europe.
Like other married dating sites, this site primarily caters to married men seeking married women in their area; thus the ratio is about 70% men and 30% women. You can join for free for 3 days, but must provide a credit card number to do so. That was the biggest downside to this site. Most other sites let you join for free without providing a credit card number.
Once you’ve become a member, you can provide information about yourself. The site is primarily geared toward men, so women may be a bit put off by the “meet lonely wives” banners. However, as you’re filling out the information, it’s pretty free form, so you’re able to be creative and provide the information you’d like others to know about yourself, without divulging things you don’t want people to know.
Married But Lonely gives you your own email box, so that you can see who’s trying to contact you. You can easily browse (even during your three day free membership) others online, and read basic information about them. In order to maintain discretion, most people don’t give out much information until you’ve made online contact, but you can search for people who live in your area and have your same interests.
Lonely Cheating Wives is another website geared toward married people looking for relationships outside their marriage. The site is primarily a US site, with 133,000 members. The site has become quite popular, but it’s been around for quite awhile; coming online in 2002. Like most of the sites, it has mostly male members, but this makes it even better for the women who join.
There are no free memberships here, but the cost is reasonable at $24.95 per month, and gives you access to all the site’s features. You can get a free trial for three days, but will have to provide your credit card number to do so. When you begin filling out your profile, you’ll quickly notice that there are lots of questions. But, all this information serves to help you find the right matches and filter out the people you wouldn’t be interested in meeting. You’ll get the chance to be creative about yourself, along with answering the standard questions about what kind of movies and books you like.
Lonely Cheating Wives has a lot of features to help protect the privacy of its members. You can give out plenty of information to help you find the right matches, but still be discreet and anonymous until you are ready to reveal your true identity to someone. With such a large database of users, you can be certain that there will be plenty of people near you who are members of Lonely Cheating Wives.
Find New Passion is pretty clear about what kind of site it is. It’s a site for currently attached people looking for passion outside their marriage, but not looking to leave their marriage. It is a newer site serving the United States, Australia, Canada and Europe since 2008. It has about 12,000 members, and about 2/3 are men. The cost for full membership is just $10 a month, but you can join and browse for free. This site is more geared toward chatting with other members and exploring each other’s desires in a more free form setting. You’ll really have to send a note to someone and begin a chat in order to find out much about them. The information that appears on their profile is very basic.
Right off the bat, you’ll be asked about your physical appearance, religious preferences and even what you like to eat. Then you’ll reach a free form field where you’re asked “about me, about you, about us”. Your answers in this field will appear on your profile, sort of like a “headline”.
You can search for the type of person you seek and review the profiles of your matches. Once you’ve reviewed the profile you can post comments on it or send a letter to the person. You can also invite them to be your friend.
Though the site bills itself as a site for married people, there are actually quite a few single people on the site as well.
One thing that’s a bit different about this site: no adult photos are allowed.
This website promotes itself as being more honest and up front about the types of relationships people seek. It is a fairly new site, having been online just since 2008. It serves the US. The site not only caters to married people, but also to married couples who are looking for a little fun together. The ratio is about 65% male to 35% female, and there are couples on the site, too. This is one of the few sites that really promotes itself as being for couples looking to play as well as for one spouse in a relationship.
The cost of the service is $29.95 per month for full access, but you can join for free. With full access you can email others on the site. If you stick to the free membership, you can browse, send flirts and add members to your naughty black book. A paid membership allows you to IM, chat and access forums, too. There’s also a section where members put private pictures. You must have a paid subscription to access these.
The questionnaire to join is quite lengthy, but it does give you a chance to really be expressive about yourself. In addition to basic questions about your appearance, lifestyle and whether or not you have kids, you’ll find some funny ways to describe your personality. You’ll also get plenty of freeform space too, so that you can really get creative.
