Shaadi.com by Disappointed

Just to add, it's a safer bet to use a track phone until you feel comfortable. Nonetheless, a person making threats to you is still a crime regardless if you gave someone your real phone number.

Victim blaming isn't right and doesn't solve the problem.

@Rahul - Get rid of your victim blaming attitude. Many people give out their cell phone number online and don't go through this. Many people haven't had this experience on match.com and eharmony.com. If other sites have better quality people, what's going on with shaadi.com?

My parents insisted to give out my information, because they thought that shaadi.com was filled with pure and moral Indian men looking for marriage. They had no idea that an Indian man is capable of threatening to rape other women.

Ya, right, Rajni - maybe you're hired by shaadi.com to promote the platform?? This is also a possibility. I had some bad experiences there, too -- meeting guys who obviously don't want to get married and are just looking for flings, I had phone calls late at night, bec premium members and accepted members have access to your phone no. It's really weird there. I met some guys who were genuine, but seriously... eh... it seems they chose the website bec there was no other way for them to get to know a girl... kind of nice people, but really out of this world. So that's my experience. I wouldn't expect anything from being on there.

I think you people are too naive. You can use a temporary cell # to register with shaadi.com for example sign up for Google voice or something. Second, you need to use a separate email address for shaadi.com. There are lots of weirdos surfing the web these days and signing up on various social networking websites. That doesn't mean we blame these sites. You need to use your intelligence. Even I'm on shaadi.com, however, my problem is different: most women on shaadi.com are ugly mallu aunties seeking a US citizenship.

Sorry to hear you went through that. Hopefully you can block that woman's e-mail? I don't think shaadi.com cares who joins. They just want the person's money. Shaadi.com also told me that they had no evidence to incriminate the member, and to just call my cell phone company. Some Indians seriously need to wake up and realize that this stuff does happen in our community. Get off your high horse and quit living in denial. Even after knowing what that man on shaadi.com did to me, my parents still feel that shaadi.com is filled with pure and moral good Indian men. Yeah right.

I have had a similar problem with Shaadi.com. I registered with good intentions and hoped to meet my life partner. I contacted a woman by firstly requesting a photo password. Her photos seemed pleasant so I decided to send her a message through the shaadi.com website. A few hours later I received a text message from that woman to my surprise. Apparently they make your number public. This wasn't a problem at the start since I was interested in her. However, after a few e-mail exchanges she sent me some more photos which didn't look like the photos on shaadi.com at all. So I lost interest and sent her a polite e-mail to say that I am not interested in taking this further. After this it got really bad as this woman would not take no for an answer. I started getting endless text messages and e-mail. She even found me on facebook and sent me some nasty messages through that.

I contacted shaadi.com. They first sent me a message to say that they have cancelled this member's membership but this was not true. I wrote to them again and they told me that they had written to this member and warned her. This was not true either since this member continued to harass me. After this I sent a strong letter to a senior manager and he responded to say that I have no evidence that they gave this member my number. They simply said to call the police. However, the police told me to take this up with shaadi.com. In the end both parties simply advised me to change my phone number. They don't understand that I have had the same number for 15 years.

I cancelled my membership but am still receiving nasty e-mail from that woman and also a lot of advertising messages from shaadi.com selling me anything from apartments to speed dating services.

If I could go back in time and do something different, I would not have joined shaadi.com at all.

One more thing-Rajni, why aren't you accusing the other comments of being fake? They all have the same negative comments. We have every right to protect other women from being put in the same situation.

Rajni, that comment is uncalled for and disgustingly unempathic. Do you want me to forward you those messages that this person sent me? It's people like you that make people too ashamed to report these things. The accusation of being called "fake" or "lying" is just as hurtful as going through something like that.

Sure, there are good members out there. But, I don't have the mental energy to do so. I've also heard similar experiences from other women, so my gut is telling me to stay away.

Don't you dare try to invalidate my experience. It's 100% genuine, whether you like it or not.

@Rajni

I am sure this is a fake complaint by a competitor. There are thousands of members who getting married courtesy of matrimonial sites like BM, Shaadi, Jeevansaathi, etc. Just because some person was offensive, it does not mean the site is bad. I have used popular matrimonial websites and they all are doing excellent service in providing members a platform to get connected. Please do NOT stay away from such sites if you wish to get married!!

-:)

Rajni