eHarmony - Dating Site Review

@Priscilla I feel sorry for you and your attitude towards older women. I'm in my 50's and I have men in their 30's in my face all the time. Why.... I'm beautiful, sexy, and they don't care for your immaturity. You think you have it all figured out and you don't. You think you're "a gift" and you're not. I hope you age gracefully as I have. By the way... remember what your are when you're 50!

I have had no problems. Get many matches a day. Lots of contact, requests for communication, long conversations on the phone and many dates. All in one month. And all within my criteria (which was pretty strict). I am early 40s and matches are 35-50. Having a great time looking for the "one".

I have been thinking of e-harmony for a while but after reading the comments, it is exactly what I suspected - a rip-off for men who can't find a woman, and a place for the "cougars" to find a younger man. Let's face it, life is not going to bring you what you want - Stop "shopping on line", stop drinking so much, and face the fact that you are, like I am, old and not desirable any more. Stop talking about yourself as "Hot, late fifties", etc. Nobody in their late fifties is "Hot" - get a mirror and clean it well before you look into it. Do some volunteer work and grow old gracefully - alone!!!

More than ninety (90) percent of the matches they sent me remained in the introductory stage meaning they never viewed my profile. eHarmony does not post a last log-in date, what does that tell you? After spending a considerable amount of money for their subscription one can expect a vendor ad on every page. Yes, you pay good money to view ads. eHarmony has a nominal word count and in most cases one is unable to express what you want to relay. As for the amount of matches, I received very few and what did appear, well many had fake first names or no picture posted. I signed up for a year and asked eHarmony for a prorated refund which was quickly denied. In summation, eHarmony is overpriced and over rated. After four (4) months, not one date, nothing at all. As a minimum stick with a dating site that does not promote fraud, meaning posts a last log-in date and allows you to write what you are looking for by not having a nominal word count. If you are a heterosexual male seeking a woman, one would do well avoiding this site.

I have joined eharmony going on a month or less, so i do not know what to say about them.

I was disappointed with the site in several ways. I am an attractive and fit 42 year old man, and look mid 30's in appearance. However, I received far too many profiles of women in their early to late 40's, where profiles of women in their 30's would have been more appropriate. The quality of profiles of women in their 30's that I did see was disappointing to say the least, rarely fit or attractive.

Even after the extensive questionnaire, some women would immediately close communication, even though these were supposed matches. In addition to the hoops to jump through, it can be very time consuming to actually get to one on one contact.

Eharmony you are doing great job. I hope you keep it up.

Couldn't be more disgusted with the 20 plus years older matches I was sent. Obviously, Eharmony victimizes women for matches with much older men who are the large base of their clients. This is a rip-off of the highest order.

To 25-year-old Priscilla:

The cookie will crumble. You too will be old one day. But for your own sake, I hope you focus those young eyes on the guys who are "in [your] face all the time".

Anyone who dates far younger is not looking for an equal partner - they are seeking someone to dominate. Don't believe words; watch actions and make up your own mind.

Best of Luck,
Cathy

PS - I agree that E-Harmony is not a great place.

If you're not Christian, don't bother. They will reject you.

I am in my mid 20s and I was sent no one older than 28 and no one matching close to someone I'd choose. I didn't even limit the search to my area! All unmotivated men and all far away from me! I live in New York City! The test was way off in my opinion. Everyone on there wants children and I make no apologies for wanting a career and not wanting a nanny raise my kids. I am so unhappy with eHarmony in every single aspect of it.

I wish they'd let me rate it '0' stars!

You old women had 50 years to figure it out, and if you haven't by now, maybe you should get a cat. Maybe you are crazy, fat, boring, wrinkled, or just plain out ugly. You may think that you look better than you actually do. If you are in your 40's, nobody wants you but a 60 year old man, if not 70. I am 25 and I have "40 year old" men in my face all the time.

I've had no problems with eHarmony.

I am a good-looking, fit woman of 52. I have been using eHarmony for 2 weeks. I get at least 10 matches a day, and half are good matches, but: the guys don't contact me, and if I try to contact them with an "Icebreaker" or "Questions", they block or ignore me. I have even rewritten my profile to sound more welcoming, and have good pictures. What is happening?

My limited experience with e-harmony was off-putting. I'm a hot, youthful late 40's woman, but they kept sending my profiles to "old" guys in their 60's, because they insisted it "works out better statistically." It didn't matter what I wanted; a still hot guy my age or slightly younger.

Actually, statistically, older woman/younger man pairings work well. But my guess is that the company wanted to cater to their pool of older men, who want younger women.

And the initial cyber meeting question menu we could select from to ask one another were very limited and trite. Nothing in them I would want to know about someone right off the bat.

Since then, I've heard some other negative things about the limited boxes they put people in, or reject them by.

This site has judged me unfit to take part in the matching services it offers. I followed their test, and completed all the questions, and was told they cannot (will not) help me. The test is more like a psych exam than questions for dating. Complete waste of time.